Feeling left out!

Hey Megan, I would say let them be! Soon you will have your little buddy to do all these beautiful things with. Focus on those memories that are waiting for you! Try not to be too worked up although it is very annoying - wishing you the best

I feel this so much! I didn’t realise how much my friends’ plans revolve around drinking and I’ve just stopped being invited to things because I can’t drink and it’s a pain for me to get home if things go on late and I’m getting really bad FOMO so you are not alone. The worst part is listening to them discussing the plans when I’m sat with them at work too. Annoyingly don’t have any advice because I am just as sad about it but I’m here with you🤦🏻‍♀️

I have had to be moved departments at work temporarily due to being pregnant however will be going back to my original department once I’ve had baby and my mat leave is over but I have worked with the girls in my original department for several years (around 10-12 of them) and they all went for a spa day/night and I wasn’t asked to go and only knew about it when I saw the images on social media. I asked why I wasn’t asked and they said it was because they didn’t think I would be able to do much there. I’m not sure whether or not that was the case as I don’t know what they did there but I’m sure I could have gone in a pool or had a massage but I could have made that decision myself if I was asked. Felt very left out and forgotten about in this moment like they think now I’m pregnant, I can’t do anything anymore or go out anywhere. 😞 I definitely get how you feel.

Made it worse that out of the entire 10-12 of them, not one of them thought to message me about it 😞

Completely relate to you girl! It’s the worst feeling in the world, completely unnecessary as being pregnant doesn’t stop you from being included. Some people can’t cope with your life changing and using that as an excuse to stop inviting you out. What I’ll say is over time the ones who care about you and baby will show, you’ll be able to openly share how you feel and in years to come you’ll look back and they’ll still be the ones who are in your life. Sometimes things fall apart so other things can form ❤️ hope you’re okay x

@Rachel so sorry this happened to you, I feel upset for you just knowing how much it’s upset me today. Did you get any apology or feel understood? Honestly not sure if it’s worth saying something or not!

@Natalie I wouldn’t mind so much if they just also arranged another get together that was more pregnancy friendly, I can’t ever imagine doing what they have done when they were pregnant. It’s really mean and made me question what value I even am to them.

@Megan I didn’t really get an apology or anything, they just sort of tried to justify it and said they will invite me next time but it’s not something they do often and can’t see them doing anything similar anytime soon. I don’t think they understood how it made me feel but I just couldn’t be bothered to argue it with them anymore so left it as it wouldn’t change anything however if it was something they did on a regular basis that I was missing out on then I may have explained how it made me feel a bit more to them. Do your friends go out often and is this something you think they will be regularly going because if so, it might be worth saying something to them as they may not have realised how you feel. If it’s something they probably wouldn’t do again while you are pregnant then it’s up to you whether you think it would be worth it as it wouldn’t change anything now. It’s a shitty situation where people just think you are now fragile and incapable because you’re pregnant 😞 x

I’m the opposite unfortunately, my friend disappeared after the death of my sons because I didn’t want to go out drinking & found it hard leaving the house. Now she knows I’m pregnant again she’s constantly looking to ‘help’ out with things and trying to buy things which sucks because I’ve done 27 weeks of pregnancy without her so I sure as hell don’t need it now! I won’t lie some times it’s lonely but I don’t need people who only want me around when it’s fun and convenient for them. I’ve learnt to give the same energy out that I’m receiving x

@Emma this is awful, this is when she should have been there for you the most. So sorry for the loss of your sons 😢 people really do show their true colours when things happen in life, whether that’s when they should be happy for you or be there when times are really hard. Sounds like you 100% don’t need her around. Xx