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It’s a normal response I believe. Everyone checks to see if their baby is still breathing once they’re put down for a nap lol. Especially new moms. It’ll get better. Just take a breath and remember the likely hood for something like that happening are extremely low. Just minimize any possibility of something bad happening. For the carrier I would invest in a cover.
Take reasonable precautions, but if you feel like you're frequently double and triple checking and overworrying, and you feel like it's getting in the way of eating, sleeping, and/or enjoying time your baby, talk to your doctor to see if you have PPA. It may be less about the information you're taking in and more about your hormones and body keeping you in a hypervigilant state.
Sometimes you need to find what works for you and baby, so you don’t go insane. Of course know the risks in whatever you do. I learned a lot in my prenatal classes, but learned more by trial and error with my baby. Those classes put too much anxiety into my head. I think this is a FTM mindset (idk if it’s correlated to age tbh) because I was in the same boat. I was so anxious with everything…drove myself crazy. Then something magically happened. In time, I said 🖕what I learned. Other moms are doing it, so why can’t I? I began trusting my maternal instincts and body. It feels natural for me to co-sleep w/ baby bc my body subconsciously knows she’s right next to me (I think it helps bc I BF too). My arms/body know how to position itself while I fall asleep with her contact napping on me. I handwash the bottles with hot water and gloves and know I am doing a good job. You’re doing a good job because you care. Don’t be hard on yourself 🙏
I'm with you I definitely have a form of post-partum anxiety. It's hard to know what's normal and what's not when it comes to your concerns and worries over your child. I'm not a doctor but if it's obsessive maybe look at talking to someone.
They can't suffocate in a carrier if they're facing up. They just need to be able to breathe. So chin up, not chin down. If you can see their whole face, they can breathe.
I totally hear you! It helps me to think that only very few kids have our westernized standard with all the worries, equipment, regulations etc. - the vast majority of human population does not have access to this but those kids turn out just fine 🩶 Your empathy is great and you will do everything right
I think alot of it just comes down to using common sense in these types of situations. Mother’s instinct is definitely a thing as well! Like if you’re using a carrier and her head is in a position she can’t breathe then just be sure to move her and keep an eye kinda thing xx