What do you say when someone asks is this your first?

Hey mama you’re not overthinking, sending love to both your babies. It took me a while but I don’t care about how other people may feel, we went through and they won’t feel worse than us. It definitely always does get awkward. But you could also say no not my first and when they follow up just say I don’t really want to share But also that may feel awkward too x

Honestly lovely, if they feel uncomfortable then thank god it’s not them having to explain that their baby died. Tell them exactly what you want to tell them and what you feel comfortable doing. You lost your baby, you have every right to tell whoever you want about them. I always say we lost a baby and I always make it clear she was stillborn and not a miscarriage because people shrug off miscarriages unfortunately, I’ve had both so I know they’re just as emotionally hard as stillbirth, but outsiders don’t see it that way. Sending love to you 🤍

@Katy so truly to all of this

For me it depends , sometimes I would say it’s my 1st living baby , other times I would say my 2nd baby or just smile to them and ignore .. depends on my mood honestly

If it makes them uncomfortable then that’s on them and they should realise not to ask personal questions..

Cayden will always be my first baby. I don’t pretend like I never had a father just because he passed away & I won’t pretend my child never existed for the same reason.

You can say whatever you want mama, if you want to talk about your baby, do! It's not fair that we have to deal with this. Sometimes I tell the truth other times if I just don't feel like it, I talk about my 2 daughters and not my son. It all depends on what you want. Don't worry about making other people uncomfortable. Your baby is your baby and always will be

I am 2 and a half years on and I still struggle with this question. But I have got answers I am comfortable with. And they change depending on who I am talking to. I don't want people to think that by mentioning my son, I am wanting sympathy or want to go into details. Sometimes I just want to acknowledge my babies in the same way as every other mum! So most of the time, I say - "I have a son but he passed away. My daughter is currently xxx years old and is at home. She just started walking and teething" I acknowledge my son and that he has passed away, but will quickly bring the conversation back to my daughter and discuss her. Most people take this as "this mum is telling me about her children but is not wanting to go into details or wants a reaction" If it was to another woman pregnant with her first however, I often don't mention my baby in heaven. Sometimes I just say "I have 2" or "She is my first baby I got to bring home" or "I am a mum of 2". No answer is right or wrong ❤️

My son was born first. My daughter passed after being born at 23 weeks, lived for 7 days and then passed. And when people ask me if he’s my only, instinctively I say no. Because I gave birth twice. I have two children. One is no longer with us. But nothing will change the fact that I have had two children. It’s very awkward. But to me, even to a complete stranger, telling them “yeah he’s my only child” is a lie, and takes away from my daughter’s existence. I usually end up saying something like “his sister passed at 7 days” most of the time people don’t ask any further questions. The ones who do usually are ones that lost a child themself.