Worried about birth

I’ve been having the same thoughts as well. Feeling slightly down, and even with my partner saying and resssuring me that I can do it my anxiety is kicking in quite badly with the date approaching 😢 it’s a weird feeling from one side I just want to meet our baby girl on the other side I’m terrified! But we need to try to keep calm and remember that cortisol is not going to help us in the moment. You’re not alone at all x

I think it’s totally normal to have some worries & anxiety before giving birth, especially if you’ve never done it before. However, your body is totally capable of birthing your baby and you are strong enough. Your body will just take over and you’ll find this inner strength because, to put it bluntly, you don’t have a choice. Also, when you go into labour, your pain and contractions won’t go from 0-10 immediately, it will ramp up. I would highly recommend some hypnobirthjng - breathing techniques, listening to some positive affirmations, reframing some of the narrative like contractions to surges or tightenings etc Most importantly, go in with an open mind, listen to your midwife, ask all the questions and make sure your birth partner advocates for you. Be open minded with pain relief and remember, nobody gets a medal for being brave in relation to pain. You’ve got this, you’ll be amazing x

This is baby no 5 for me and I’m still anxious about giving birth and how I will cope with the pain. I have fast labours too and my partner is a worrier so I have to try and show I’m not anxious or anything. You will be amazed at how strong your body is! I gave birth to my 3rd baby at home without any medical professional there she came that fast so I know I can do it but still an anxious time

@Lorraine wow thank you, I think I just overthink everything that could go wrong thinking it be me that it would happen to x

@Mia thank you, I feel a little better I know we all feel anxious, and I knew I would feel it but deffo helps if people have gone through the same feelings as myself x

@Pipa yeah I just think I need to remind myself I am not special and lots of women go through this, I just worry about everything that could go wrong probably doesn’t help I am a nurse so always thinking of worst doesn’t help in this situation x

@Sam oh wow , I bet that was scary I hope it goes better this time x

This is my first pregnancy and about to pop but I am so uncomfortable and so over being pregnant that I can’t wait to go into labour and give birth. I have faith that my body will know what to do when the time is right. My mum is my biggest support and she keeps telling me that I was made for giving birth and to just go with the flow and I believe her. Trust yourself because if you have a positive attitude everything will be have a beautiful experience.🤗

I’ve been feeling exactly the same but now im in slow labour and having contractions I highly highly recommend having a 4D scan it’s been a life saver for me when they get painful I look at my little man’s scan photo and just think would he have this nose or when I meet him will it be more like his dads etc and I can them cope way better. You’ve got this our bodies are made to have children🩷

I had been hugely anxious about delivering a baby even before i ever got a husband- my mum made it look so easy but society treated it like some horror story. Lots of friends of mine had complications at birth but 1 friend who had 2 growth restricted babies and was unexpectedly induced quickly n painfully twice said to me: delivery and its pain and recovery is a couple of days or weeks at most, your body can deal with it. but the bliss you get for the rest of your life with a child is worth it n so much more powerful so i found focusing on that bit n being excited for the end of delivery really helped my anxiety mindset.

I was the same and then I started doing hypnobirthing and looking I to positive birthing and stories and changed my mindset completely. I’m still aware that things can go off plan or wrong but I’m also focusing on all the positive sides so I don’t end up spiralling going into labour already anxious! So I do fully recommend doing those things. Xx

I’ve just had my little boy honestly it’s not fun Labour isn’t nice but I’d do it a million times over for him it is 1000% worth it. The second you hear them cry you go numb to the world I had no pain relief not by choice but I would still do it all again for him xx