Sharing planned cesarean date
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We’re also waiting on a date for an elective section and only plan on telling parents/siblings. Definitely don’t think it’s selfish to only tell who you want. Elective sections can change and we personally want to enjoy the first wee while with our baby without lots of messages etc although people mean well we would prefer to tell them the baby has arrived in our own time once we’re settled. Tell who you want to tell and don’t worry about what people think, things will be a lot calmer without all the messages x
I want to only tell my mum and dad as they’ll be looking after LO but I know my sister will realise straight away 😂 so just them three till she’s here. I just hope my husband can keep it to himself. We still haven’t got a name either 🫣
Not selfish at all! I didn’t tell any one except parents with my first, got the date 2 days before. I didn’t want any added anxiety! This time got it quite far in advance so felt strange not sharing it, and have mentioned it by mistake too 😂 but it’s to people who won’t nag me or ask for info as the date approaches so I felt comfortable x
We have only told our parents, personally just my preference as I know I will be nervous and anxious on the day and won’t deal well with being bombarded by messages and calls when I am in that frame of mind. I am also aware that it could potentially be moved if emergencies etc come in and don’t want to have to relay that news to people because again I know it will mean more questions etc from everyone! I think you should do whatever you’re comfortable with,
I know lots of people who didn’t share their section date in advance, I think it’d quite normal and understandable! I got the date very early on and I can’t be bothered to keep it secret so basically everyone knows but I might have felt differently if it was my first
It is absolutely not selfish to keep it to yourself! The last thing you need is loads of people knowing and pestering you for updates on the day. Maybe come up with a phrase to give yourself something to say when people ask? Could be something like- oh waiting to hear from the hospital about a date, or they’ve said it will be late January ect. The other reason to maybe not share with loads of people is that unfortunately elective c sections can be moved if they are bumped by an emergency. It’s your birth at the end of the day, share only what you feel comfortable with x