My doctor asked a weird question.
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Oh wow, where is this?
That's terrible. Clearly if you wanted that done you would bring it up and/or discuss with your doctor at one of your prenatal appointments. That's not the appropriate time. They must just make an extra buck if you agree to it.
What a shocking question
I had the doctor ask me if I wanted a coil put in literally as I was going in. It really threw me as no-one had asked me about anything like that in the lead up so i said no. I kind of wish I had had my tubes done tbh (if it had been brought up!) as I know that I don't want more children 🙈
@Tawni not necessarily, I'm in UK so it's nothing about money and I got asked if I wanted a coil on the way in
Honestly that is such an odd question and answer after. Not even my doctors who SUGGESTED I not have kids anymore because my body just wouldn’t handle it since my pregnancy was so tough told me that. I made a plan with my doctors I would get the implant but never did they say to tie my tubes. They were never even thinking it. It’s actually recently been my mother to nag me to do so because she’s so worried about me ending up pregnant again but that’s a whole other convo.
Oh that’s shocking I’m same age with 2 also my surgeon didn’t say anything like that she did mention that if I wanted a 3rd we should leave a bigger age gap (current age gap of sons is 2 1/2 years) and I’d defo need a C-section.
I'm shocked by this. I had my tubes cut 10 weeks ago during my c section. I had to ask for this beforehand and have a call with a consultant first to discuss my options. They also told me if I went into labour early and had a c section they probably wouldn't do it as the extra time wouldn't be scheduled in 🙈
Where are you guys located? I asked if I could get my tubes tied after the c section and my OB said I needed a consent signed 3 months in advance so no. This is in NY.
Yea usually doctors asks after the 2nd or the 3rd child.
That’s crazy so many others have had it been asked. I’m in Arizona so I’m not sure Plus it was my doctor I saw all pregnancy long because the surgery schedules worked out so he would know what I would want. It’s just something that now I’m 3 weeks postpartum that I was thinking back on and thinking about what a weird time this is to mention it.
I think it’s a normal question. It’s only a women need to respond. The comment it’s not necessary. My ob see me all the time and ask me on the prep on the table because she forgot.
I was asked if I wanted a coil first and said no so then they said ok just straight normal c section no extra surgery like tube tying But the way he said the comment after is weird
Yes the added comment was the part that I think caught me off guard the most but I didn’t have any time to register any of it until now since everything was so chaotic in the moment. Don’t get me wrong I love the doctor I have I just thought it was a little out of left field to ask that since I find that is a whole conversation that should be had before something stressful happens. (Within the hour I started contracting and made it to hospital I was already at 8 cm dilated so things had to go fast)
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I’ve been asked that both csections. It’s safer and easier to do it while they’re already in there in case you are done having kids.
That's just rude.
My doctor did the same thing during my c-section. My first thought tho since this is my 4th an the is the first time my doctors have every brought it up.i feel like they dont they the whole team cause the doctor that did my c-section was way different then the doctors i was seeing on an off during my pregnancy. But everytime i got/met one of the other doctors they would ask if i wantes to tie my tubes. At my 2week incision check up she asked again. When i said im still thinking about it. First she said well i wish they woulda done it while they were already in there. An im like um no because i heard horror stories which is why i was on the fence. Im definitely done having kids but i dont wanna deal with unnecessary pain for the rest of my life from getting my tubs tied. Ik everyone is different but i wanted more information before doing it
No but I wish she had I would of said yes! One and done for me! I'm too old to handle anymore especially if they are as wild as my boy! Lol
It's not really shocking as a lot of women choose to have them tied whilst in there and they leave the decision up until the procedure to decide. It's a perfectly normal and valid question
@YazmynJade, I never knew this. It's odd how a lot of people are unaware, and I understand how it could be a surprising question. I think if it had happened to me, I would have been completely blind sided
@Cat fortunately I requested my tubes to be tied signed all the consent forms and then the day I had my emergency c section they said before the procedure started did I still stand with the decision I couldn't make my mind up so we collectively decided to leave it to a later date. I was asked during my first emergency If I wanted them done after baby was out and safe I declined as I wanted more at that time and everyone else I know who's has a c section has been asked. It's easier for them and cheaper for them to do it while already in there it's less recovery time this way and doesn't add much extra time onto the surgery which is why they ask there and then
My doctor asked me too, She said it so casually like “Are we tying your tubes while we are in there, if that’s the plan we can do it all in one go”. I was immediately like “NO?” confused why she would ask that. I also have 2 bio children now and definitely want one more in the future.