Am I being immature or placing boundaries?

So background, I’m still currently in school while pregnant but I have a Masters degree already and my boyfriend has a good job. A lot of my family was disappointed when I announced my pregnancy since I wasn’t finished with school and I wasn’t married, and some felt I was just too young (24 btw). So when I sent a video of my gender reveal (didn’t tell them about it since they live far and hadn’t announced my pregnancy yet) 4 out of 16 of the people I sent it to responded and everyone else ignored it. And 1 individual just asked whether I’d get married or not. Since then, no one has checked in with me, and the family has been acting very aloof towards me, and I’m not entirely sure if they’re upset or just indifferent towards me right now. Fast forward, we suffered a family loss recently and my father (an asshole) knew I couldn’t afford to travel for the funeral so I asked if there’d be a live for it. He says the church won’t allow recording so I leave it alone. Today, he sends me a link to the funeral that was days ago and says at the last minute the church allowed recording of the funeral so they had a Facebook live of it. Mind you, I was the first and only person to ask for access to one. The whole funeral from people arriving to people leaving was recorded and he didn’t think for a second to invite me to join the live. Yet invited other church members in the same state that couldn’t make it to the funeral. At this point, I’m so angry at how they’ve disregarded me and excluded me from something that was so important to me and now I don’t want to invite them to my baby shower or even update them about my baby. I feel like apart of that is immature because I don’t want my daughter’s relationship with them to be influenced by my anger with them, but I also feel like they’re so toxic and don’t really care about me or her at this point. What do y’all think?