Husband doesn’t want to have sex

I had a 2nd degree tear too and hubby witnessed it all, he was so shocked by labor itself but never showed he was not interested, we waited about 8-10 weeks till we were active pp but that was due to me wanting to make sure I was completely healed and not rushing it, he was counting down to the 6 weeks but totally understood why I wanted to wait a bit more. Even before birth we were active up until the day before I gave birth. I wonder if he's "not feeling it" due to body changes from pregnancy or something, seems like he's felt the same way since late pregnancy so I wouldn't assume the labor process caused this. If it is the physical changes that's repelling him, that's really not fair, pregnancy effects everything and he had a part to play in it even happening, and as your husband he should be supportive and always making sure you're feeling wanted. My husband made an effort to tell me I was beautiful or show me lots of affection pregnancy/pp, even though I look like a troll doll 80% of the time 😂

@Rosie In my case it’s him not wanting to have sex. I’m feeling ready to give it a try already.

Does he give you a reason as to why he doesn't want to?

Did you talk to him about this?

Hi there, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way—it’s such a vulnerable time, and it’s understandable that this situation is weighing on you. I feel like this is very common, and I’d actually say the opposite of what she said—that most guys might feel a little off after witnessing the delivery because it’s such a different experience for them to process. In my case, it was exactly the same! We didn’t really have sex during the third trimester of pregnancy in both my pregnancies, and it took a little while after to get that desire back—more from him than from myself. So you’re definitely not alone in this! It sounds like your husband might still be emotionally processing what he witnessed during the birth, which can happen even if they don’t verbalize it clearly. Being able to talk about it is already a great step. If it’s been hard for you to take the time, maybe give it another month or so and try to play some fun games together,

like question games reminiscing about experiences from the past. It might help lighten the mood and start to bring things back to normal. Remember, you’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. You’re doing an amazing job as a new mom, and I hope things get easier for you both soon. Sending lots of love and support your way!