Single Mother in Science

Hey there! I am currently pursuing my bachelor’s in biological sciences and I am expected to graduate this May. I am also a new mother to a 7 month old girl. My daughter’s father and I are still together but living apart( the college and daycare are only about 2 miles away from my mom’s, this is who I’m staying with now) He is still in the picture but not enough for me to be able to rely on him for things. He helps when he can but he only sends about $50 once a month, if that. I’d understand if that’s really all he could give, but he spends a couple hundred at the bar/casino every other week. Admittedly, I don’t really feel entitled to ask him for more money being in only a girlfriend. I love him but I need more help. I mentioned the idea of child support once and he got very angry with me. He told me I can just simply ask him for what I need. But the thing is, I have and he has yet to buy diapers, formula, clothes, etc. He says “I’ll grab it the next time I get paid” but next time never comes and he’ll eventually give me cash at some point. It’s never been more than $60. Soo, here I am asking for help from others about possible programs or other resources for single moms or women in science. If anyone has any ideas, suggestions, or advice, it’d be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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That amount is not enough. I know at my pediatrician appointments, they always ask me if I need any recommendations or assistance for food, prescriptions, or transportation for doctors appointments. Are you offered the same kind of help?

You are absolutely entitled to ask for more help and to get child support. You may be his girlfriend but the money is for his child and he is responsible for that child. You have to do what's best for your baby and maybe that means getting court ordered child support.

Second what @MK said. Approaching this logically, you've tried all the regular avenues and the guy isn't being supportive enough. Time for legal action.

Do you qualify for WIC? Might be worth applying! :)

Honestly I would consider suing him for child support $50 is a joke. A literal joke. This guy is not acting like he loves you or his baby.

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