Hi mamas of little boys!

I haven’t had this experience and I’m sorry to hear you have, but what I would say is I had a pretty shitty dad who was abusive and controlling towards our mum and none of my brothers have remotely displayed these behaviours and are actually really decent men, kind and loving. I truly believe if you give him the right environment to thrive in he will turn out to be everything you hoped for! Hope this helps ❤️

@Carly thank you, I had a narcissist bio dad and bc I have no brothers, I have no idea what to expect. I just hope my stepdad is a good role model for him

With the right environment and upbringing no he won’t shit like this comes down to upbringing who they are sounding by and environment you raise them to be who they are things like this isn’t in the DNA is learnt

@Gabriella 💗 i hope so, my bd had some mental issues and I'm just hoping they were from head trauma 😭😭😭

@Swai-Anne if you start seeing this when his older take him to a therapist and work on it as soon as you realize he’s so young now but I mean when his older u seem like a great mom I’m sure he’s gonna be good remember he’s learning from u ur his role model so most likely how he sees you is how he’s gonna grow up to be

@Gabriella 💗 thank you, honestly I'm hoping he turns out like my uncles, they are all wonderful with good paying jobs, beautiful wives and cute kids

@Swai-Anne my father was absolutely insane and none of my brothers are like that at all the opposite they are proactive and will help if they see a man doing this to a woman cuz that’s what my ma has taught them my bd crazy too and I don’t think my daughter has taken any of that

@Swai-Anne what they see is what they learn

@Gabriella 💗 my bio dad was too, I have some of his personality traits and it makes me so scared ill end up like him

@Swai-Anne honestly I do too my anger be wild sometimes the list goes on but I truly think if my ma had taken me to work on it when I was younger it would’ve been better this is not permanent at all finding a way to cope with it and work with it helps but I also think I got ts from my father I did cuz we lived with him until I was like 8 or some plus everything he did to me the trauma and seeing what he put my ma through

@Gabriella 💗 same, it's taking me so much self control and work to get my anger issues in check so they don't affect bub. As soon as he shows any signs, he'll be going straight to a psychologist or a counsellor.

I’ve had those thoughts before. But I think with my current man being the father figure in his life he won’t turn out like his dad.

@Lys ❤️‍🔥 i wish, i feel like all the guys my age where I live are ferals 😭😭😭

@Swai-Anne That sucks. But father figures can be granddad and uncles close guy friends too.

@Lys ❤️‍🔥 yeah, at least with my step dad as his role model he'll be good at cooking and cleaning!