Husband & I deeply disagree politically, do you?

While I cannot relate because me and my husband share most of the same political views, you are absolutely not alone! Many women have different views from their husbands, some of them even keep those views to themselves and/or pretend to believe the same as their husbands, one of Kamala's campaign ads touched on this too. I'm scared about the state of things too, you might possibly benefit from finding a community who shares the same views as you (maybe even find one specifically for wives who disagree with their spouses). It can feel isolating but there are many women just like you 🫶🏻

You just need to find someone else to talk to about it, do you have a friend or family member you could talk to?

My exhusband and I this was one our conflicts He was “apolitical” then “moderate” then got increasingly more conservative (ironically the poorer he got) and we just butted heads a lot My current partner and I were way more aligned on issues and solutions though he leans towards anarchy and I lean more towards socialism

1.I just wouldn't expect to/want to talk to him about it. We're married because we love each other and want to share a life together, not because of our perfectly aligned view on everything. My husband is dying to talk to someone about football, I'm dying listening to anything football related. He just needs to fill that gap elsewhere, I can't meet all his needs and neither can he mine. If there was something very specific I felt incredibly deeply about and felt it affected me personally, I would probably lose my mind if he didn't understand and chose to look the other way even after I had my meltdown sharing all my feelings and opinions 😅😅

2.example, we disagreed on the issues women face in the workforce. He says it should all be equal and I lose my mind at that because we're not equal if I have to be the one to bear a child and recover from it and be that child's everything for the first 3 years minimum. He said there's no need for feminism, and although I tend to stray away from it in most cases, I'll align if what they're currently fighting for is something I want to fight for. Eg. Research was done on how a child is more likely to suffer from anxiety and mental health issues if they're away from their primary caretaker for the first 3 years. Why do we only have paid maternity leave for 9 months and have no guarantee to our jobs if we choose to exercise our right to unpaid maternity leave longer than a year. The country needs women to work, the country needs women to bear the new generations, and yet they're not making sure we can do both safely and well and will guilt trip us if we're not doing both.

3.We need a better balance, we need better conditions and we need to be valued in doing both. We shouldn't need to explain our work gaps if we have the relevant experience and knowledge for the role. We shouldn't need to work somewhere for 2 years in order to be entitled to afford living during your maternity leave. For me knowing I'll have children meant I couldn't leave the company I was miserable in because they didn't create a new role for me when the scope of my workload completely changed and if I was doing the same job elsewhere I would probably be on a £30k higher salary. Knowing I'll have a family halts my career progression if I have bills to pay, it won't halt my husband's though because he doesn't even need to think about that, as he won't do the carrying and bearing and recovery and breastfeeding.

4.So how is that fair on women in today's society? I ended up losing my mind and crying all day just because I had to explain that to him even though he could see what I was going through with his own eyes. I don't know if he agreed with me by the end of it but he will definitely be less proud to share his opinion again😅 Sorry I just went through the emotions of the rant all over again 😅😅

@Stella haha 😂 Stella it's okay. I read your long emotional rant! Personally, I guess it's one of those things where I agree as a mama, but then I also disagree that it's the government's job to solve for this considering how broke we are. Perhaps if we taught financial studies for family building in school we can have people in the mindset to better prepare and stock away for themselves? Idk. I don't have a solution, but I'm just here to say I hear you and your concerns are valid!

My husband and I are aligned but I would imagine it would be very difficult if we weren’t. If politics are something you like talking about you could try to meet some women on here. That’s what I did. I met a bunch of women that talk about politics and keep up through the pods. We talk on here and on a discord server.

My husband and I both agree that politics are trash and bullshit regardless of the country

There are a few issues we disagree with but in the whole we agree on the important bits

We agree on the main points, but he doesn't think it's going to get as bad as I think it's going to get. So I can't discuss those points with him. I discuss those points with my friends. Many folks are in your same spot though.