Pregnant with second and scared as hell
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I hate to say this but don't exclusively breastfeed. I'm doing combination feed and I couldn't be happier. It's very demanding with one baby, and then adding a toddler to the mix is very difficult. You will be fine. My mom did it. It does get easier when they get older.
I had two under two and it's hard for sure. You can do it!
@cari Dang pregnant with twins! That must be a lot to take in! I am really looking forward to seeing my little one grow up with a sibling, I suppose it’s something good to focus on instead of the difficulties. But same, no more for me after this one!
@Annie I want to pump and breast feed so my partner can take some feedings. My first refused the bottle and I just found it much easier to breast feed instead of fussing with formula and getting her to take the bottle, but it might be better this time around to incorporate milk and formula (so I’m not doing it alone). But I feel guilty that a breast fed my first and didn’t try my best to do the same for the second, you know? I think the first 2-3 years will be rough but it should hopefully get easier after that. But I think that’s what I’m worried about 😂
@Cassandra I seriously admire those that manage 2 under 2, I think I would die. Big claps for you hun, people like you give me strength to get through my own nonsense 😂
I’m on my third, she’s 2 months and my middle child is a boy whose 2 1/2 years old and my oldest is 8, it gets easier the more you have and of course the experience. I know it’s tough, but it’s worth it and your 2 years old will be growing out of the terrible stages and into a different phase by the time the baby comes, I was also sad and pissed when I was pregnant lol with my third because I just got promoted and didn’t want anymore anytime soon. My advice, trust the process
I know exactly how you feel. I did a combination with both my girls. You can bottle feed in the first month to make sure they take it well.
Honestly, you never know what kind of experience you’ll have so the anxiety around what it could be like is SO real. My first was not great at sleeping through the night or napping during the days, EBF for the first 6 months then was on a pump schedule the following 6 months with supplementing with formula too… it was exhausting and draining. Fast forward a year + and I had my second, they sleep great during the night and take reasonable naps pretty consistently. Didn’t breastfeed due to a number of reasons and couldn’t continue a pump schedule with a toddler and newborn. This time around, it felt so much easier, even through the exhausting newborn stage. You got this. I am currently expecting my third and that will be 3 under 3… so… I think you’ll do amazing!
Won't lie, the first few months with 2 is a train wreck. ☄️🚂🔥 After that, it's hard. 😵💫😬🤯 Then it's a situation. 💩🙈🙀 Now it's a really cute situation... 🥰🫢🤣 It does seem to get progressively better. I have hope for the future, and you should too. Good luck, Mama! 🍀
We are in the same boat! I am currently 22 weeks pregnant and I have a daredevil 28 month old.I found out I was pregnant the day before her 2nd birthday. I was bummed about having a second child because I was starting to get back to myself and I didn’t want to go through the sleepless nights and PPD. Those feelings didn’t change until last week. I got tired of worrying and decided to accept the change. I am hopeful that everything will work itself out. Good luck to you mama!
Hey I’m in a similar situation. Just our 2 yer old child still is a terrible sleeper. She wakes up minimum 2 times per night, once usually screaming crying demanding all sort of things like massage etc. I am 30 weeks (213 days) pregnant and I through this pregnancy I had like 2 nights of proper sleep…. So that’s not a lot of sleep 😃🫣 also terrified and tired but apparently many people told me it’s not that bad with toddler and newborn as you imagine… so I am hopeful
Every baby is different! My oldest was a nightmare sleeper, so bad I didn't have another for 17 years, lol My second was, and still is a great sleeper. My oldest was only bottlefed, and my second was breast till 3 months, then combo fed, then bottle fed only at 7 months. I breastfed at night during those 7 months, which I personally found easier. Oldest would wake for hours at a time at night, struggled to fall asleep, woke early, only slept in her moving swing. Second would sleep in his bed, wake a few times, but fall back asleep quickly. Handful of times, he stayed awake during a 45 min wake window. Always went down easy, always slept in till about 9am average (he's 2, and still sleeps till 8 or 9am) Not every baby is a horrible sleeper!
That happened to me. My son just turned two, I had finally stopped breast feeding, and feeling like myself again, then BOOM! I found out I was pregnant with twins. I cried, cause the PPA the first time was bad. I didn't think i could do it again. Currently, a week into newborn twins with a two year old. It is hard, and exhausting 😪. But, my oldest is so cute with them. He's naturally gentle with them (well as gentle as a two year old can be). And, he loves them so much. I'm currently hoping as they get older it will be easier and less tiring, but I'm definitely done. I'm not having any more kids!