Announcing to work colleagues?

This is a tough one. I’ve told a couple of colleagues I’m close to at work, but I’m not planning on telling my whole team until after my 20 week scan. I think you need weigh up what you feel more comfortable with doing. If the whispers bother you and will play on your mind, you may want to consider telling some/all of them.

Have you had your 12 week scan? I’m waiting to tell people then, I’ll be 13 weeks. But it’s a Thursday afternoon and I don’t work Friday so I’ll tell work colleagues the following week when I’ll be closer to 14 weeks. But if you don’t feel comfortable then you don’t have to announce. I didn’t do a big announcement with my first as I was so terrified of loss (lost the baby before her) I just casually told people. It did feel awkward actually announcing it.

Honestly - if you don’t want them to know then don’t. Let them speculate, if they honestly have nothing better to do then you don’t owe them any of your time. Tell others when you’re ready. And you can be honest and say you’ve had some tough times in the past which is why you waited (which I’m sure will stop them/make them realise they shouldn’t be gossiping). But if you’re comfortable telling them then do. But just do it all on your terms x

@Laura, I was planning on 20 weeks but I feel I will be very noticeable by then 🤨 I think I will have to see how if I get in 4 more weeks. @Danielle I’ve had my 12 weeks and everything was fine and healthy. I’m just planning on casually telling people aswell, I don’t do well with attention 🤣 @Emily The office does get very gossipy so I know it’ll happen. But I do want to try and keep it as long as possible 💗

A few weeks ago a colleague told me she asked a woman how far along she was - she wasn’t pregnant. So she said never again is she going to ask anyone. So I’m playing a little game of how far along do I have to be before someone asks 😂😂😂😂😂 boss knows and I told her I’m not telling anyone so lol. We see

@Hollie wow how awkward! 🤣 I would never ask anyone! Not sure if I would be asked, but maybe worth a try and maybe if I get one person asking then I will maybe need to say something to the rest 🤣

Yeah I’m just going to play it really casual. ‘Are you pregnant?’ ‘Yeah 🥰🥰🥰’ I know it’ll soon get around the office but I’m fine with that- it’s not a secret, I just think be intriguing as to how big I need to be hahahaha

@Anonymous I hate the attention too. Also, we struggled with fertility and it took us 5 years and multiple rounds of ivf to get my daughter that I am also sooooo conscious of announcing a pregnancy in case someone is trying and it’s really hard to hear a pregnancy announcement. I remember having to keep it together all day when a colleague announced his wife was pregnant but I literally just counted down the hours and cried in the car. Obviously not the fault of anyone who gets pregnant and is excited, I’m just more conscious as I’ve been on the other side.

I'm nearly 15 weeks and feel the same. The cold weather has been a blessing with baggy jumpers but I won't get away with it much longer. I'm thinking I will just put a scan photo on our notice board in our lunch room saying due 30th July. I don't want the attention either. Plus I'm older this time and don't want to hear if there's any judgement on my age. My close team know as they've known about my losses previously. I would happily keep it that way if it didn't get so obvious- which it already is.

There are so many drawstring jeans/trousers nowadays that you can probably keep it quiet for longer than you think. TW - loss I kept my last pregnancy quiet, bar 2 colleagues I’m close to, until we lost our daughter at 20 weeks. All by tactical clothing choices, drawstring trousers, tshirt and a blazer seem to hide it really well.