4 year old with possible autism?

I just wanted to come on here and ask as I keep getting told by family members that I’m overthinking but as my daughter gets older the thought she might have autism keep getting stronger. I’ve noticed since she was about 2.5 she might be a little different and now at age four it is becoming difficult. She won’t let me wash her hair without screaming bloody murder the same with cutting her finger and toe nails, I just did her toe nails and we had a neighbour knock on the door concerned because of how much she was screaming, it made my ears ring!! She finds it hard to brush her teeth as doesn’t like the feeling and will scream and wince if I try and do it, she won’t eat foods if they are touching, she has easily gets upset about anything for instance if I’m not listening to her when she wants me to, she has recently started talking like a baby and calling me mama and her dad papa. She continually puts her shoes on the wing feet even though we have stickers in her shoes and she knows what feel they go on. She likes to have socks on at all times and won’t let me go anywhere near her feet, gags forcefully at anything she finds remotely gross even if it’s just talking her nighttime nappy off she will never actually listen to anything I tell her no matter how well and how many times I explain it, she makes a “pshhhh” noise when outside family members are talking to her or she just goes completely mute, she gets so angry at her toys she throws them, she gets so upset when her baby sister is crying that she puts her headphones on to block out the noise or shouts at her, she chews on all of her clothes when we are out and about or is if she feeling off so much so that they get soaking wet, she repeats things over and over until I do what she wants me to do even if I have explained to her multiple times I’m just doing something and I will do it afterwards. she gets incredibly upset and embarrassed when she falls over and won’t let me look at where she is hurt and doesn’t want me to comfort her. The list could go on, she is however incredibly smart and has an amazing imagination and spends hours drawing. I’m just looking for a bit of help/ advice or if this is actually normal? Thank you x

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Get her assessed, only sure way to know, then you'll never be wondering and wishing you did somehting sooner if she has 🙂

My little one is almost 3 and he used to hate and scream when taking a bath, washing his hair and sitting on the potty. Now he loves it and even asked to take a bath but…. Now he has tantrums when we don’t do his way throwing himself on the floor and calms himself in less than 5 min, even at the nursery as he can’t transition from one task to another, throwing toys when he is frustrated and screaming and crying. He is a very smart boy knowing lots of nursery songs, the alphabet, counting to 100, all the shapes and puzzles, and colours, he even knows what happens next when we read to him stories and memories them. The nursery sent a report so he could be assessed….

My son was the same and was autistic. He does not like new experiences so I have to either demonstrate on myself or his brother what to expect. A lot of coaching and verbalizing through stuff. He hates water in his face in the shower and have to count down to it and even then for like 2 seconds. Showers take a minute 🙃. He doesn’t like the tooth brush either I switched to a U toothbrush so at least more area could be cleaned at the same time 🤷🏽‍♀️ you do what you can. One thing I’ve learned is it’s not personal with him it’s his own comfort so lots of patience. Scariest thing is getting assessed after that resources open up to help support you and your child.