Biscuit dilemma… what do I do?
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@Rhonda they keep saying everyone eats it and it’s not like it’s poison etc
Your parents are at fault here… they are his children as much as yours and should completely respect the rules of said parents. Biscuits contain a lot of sugar and can easy cause sugar addiction in toddlers. It’s bad for an adult to have a biscuits let alone a child and to have more than one is not good! Even if it was 5 or 7 that’s not good. Your husband had every right to storm out and get upset xx sorry momma xx
Maybe I'm weird but everything in moderation. One biscuit won't hurt. Just buy a brand that has less sugar per 100g so you feel comfortable with it.
I’d be livid too, it is not their decision it’s your and your husbands and they are not respecting your boundaries. I lived with mine and my partners parents while having a baby before we bought our house and I understand the frustration and how hard it is ❤️ Please talk to your parents and stress the importance of respecting your decisions, I can imagine you respect the rules of their house so why do they get to break it. It will ruin your trust with them. I get defensive about sugar it winds me up how much my in-laws give my 3 year old, because she is so sensitive to it and up all night and guess who has to look after her with a baby also on boob 🫠
My 9 month old has a digestive biscuit every morning 😂 I don’t understand the problem they’re deffo old enough to be having biscuits..
It’s a biscuit it’s really not a big deal !
It doesn't matter how old they are and whether people think they should be allowed biscuits, you've said no, but your parents still gave them some!! They're just disrespecting your parenting and boundaries
Its hard living with parents (in-laws for me). They're your children and boundaries need to be respected. I do agree with @Ella and @Elena. My (step) Mum’s parents have always given my boys a biscuit and drink. One rule was no chocolate before 10am. He does get a digestive one with chocolate. I’m not to fuss with it, it doesn't have much chocolate on it. Everything in moderation, why not have the biscuits as a treat?
Thing is it’s your boundary, it shouldn’t matter if other people let their parents give biscuits to their kids, it’s their family! You said no, that means no.
The problem here has nothing to do with whether eating a biscuit is a big deal or not. Your parents keep crossing yours and your husbands boundaries when I comes to your child’s diet and that’s not fair! They should listen to you. That’s all. My mum was testing my boundaries a ton too. The boys were 3 yrs old and she wanted to give them ice cream but I kept telling her we aren’t doing sweets till 5. She pushed and pushed and I had to confront her and it turned into this whole conversation where all she did was defend herself. So stupid. They should just listen to your wishes.
Some parents don’t want their kid to have that kind of sugar and that’s okay you are the parent. You said no and they need to listen. Your husband has every right to be mad because he’s probably tired of no one listening. It’s also good he believes your child he didn’t think he was saying a fib at all and that’s good. I think it would be best to sit down and just tell them this is the one thing you say not to have and you would appreciate no matter how they feel about it if they would just listen.
I'm stuck on the fact that your parents were taking care of your kids while you slept but what was your husband doing? I don't let people I don't fully trust take care of my kids. I weigh out the benefits. Do I benefit more from living with my parents or more from my kids not having biscuits.
Honestly, the context on eating biscuits doesn’t really matter. Your parents aren’t respecting you and your husband as the parents. My parents always double check with me when they do anything with my son. And if I say no, then it’s no. They don’t push back on me.
I would be fuming that your parents aren’t following simple things you’ve asked them to do. This is why I don’t leave my son with anyone other than my partner 🤷🏼♀️ people can’t be fully trusted
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Your parents do not respect you and your husbands boundaries plain and simple. Give your parents clear and concise direction no biscuits in the morning, but give them an alternative that’s acceptable, maybe apple slices or something? I’d be so angry if my in laws gave my kids things when I explicitly told them not to. Luckily my in laws respect me and my wishes for my children.
Regardless of whether or not it was my parents or my husband’s parents if I set a boundary and it was crossed I’d be livid. You didn’t ask your parents whether or not the biscuits had sugar in them. You asked them not to give your kids any biscuits. That is 100% your parents fault. If it was me, I would be backing my husband up not defending my parents.
Extreme reaction from all adults. Maybe offer an alternative whilst thanking parents for looking after the kids! Hope you got sleep. I have some strict rules like rear facing in the car and some moderation in food intake...but flex my rules about other things such as watching tv in bed when at grandparents, as thats their rules /treats and causes no harm. Must be harder when you live together as all need to parent similarly really. Worth an open conversation. The argument probably isn't about biscuits but maybe about stress of living together/parenting differently
I’d personally be annoyed if I’d asked my parents before not to give my child biscuits and they still were. It sounds like a bit of an overreaction from your husband aswell though.