Dating after Divorce

I’ll get straight to the point. I’ve been Dating someone for 5 months. He and his ex wife have in their court papers that they must be dating for 6 months before that person meets their child. I actually loved the idea and adopted it with my ex husband and I. Nowhere in the paperwork is it ordered I have to meet her but she requested it and as a mother myself I totally respect. I’m a planner. We don’t live very local. I currently homeschool along with extra curricular and running my own business. So I reached out 6 weeks before the actual 6 month mark. I sent a friendly yet professional message requesting her to look over her busy schedule and to let me know when worked best for her. Well it’s been almost 3 weeks now of ghosting me with no response. I can see the message was delivered via text. My man and I are conflicted on how much effort to put into this. I’ve done my part to reach out. By following up it feels desperate when in reality I’m only doing this for her. As a mom myself I’ve role reversed but I know I would have responded immediately that I’d definitely look over my calendar and get back to her. I totally understand we get busy but we’re all grown ass adults. Do we follow up because of her lack of ability to text back or do we say whatever and keep on keeping on and when she gets mad later shrug and say you had plenty of notice to try to arrange with me.