Am I in the wrong

So I just miscarried at 7 weeks and literally just got off the toilet from miscarrying the baby sac and stuff very not nice and he knew this. I came into the room and he told me to look at the door at what the dog did and it was all muddy paw prints all over my door and over my walls. Anyways I’m in a lot of pain like 10/10 pain but I start wiping it up obviously don’t want it worse by leaving it but whilst I’m doing it my boyfriend is playing with our one year old on the bed and I’m saying ouch and I’m in a lot of discomfort and they’re playing which is nice but it gave me a bad headache so I snapped because no1 I’m cleaning this up whilst he plays with my son whilst I’m actively miscarrying and no2 he’s watching me do it. So I say can you stop I’ve got a headache, to which I get I spoke harshly I’ll put my hands up, he then gets up holds my sons hand and says come on I’m still cleaning up the door at this point and he’s just watching me waiting for me to move so I say what are you doing and he’s says I’m waiting because we’re not allowed to play in here. I said seriously after all that’s just happened I’m sat here in pain wiping everything up and he’s like I never asked you to you could’ve just asked. But I’m like you’re stood over me watching me in pain waiting for me to move he starts helping and I’m like leave it now I’m almost done, and then I move and he opens the door and says you’re not gonna speak to me that way, and says we’re going away from you and I’m snap and say I’m in pain and stuff and things like saying that aren’t very nice considering to which he says well you’re being nasty I said you aren’t being very considerate and caring and I cry and push him out of the door and close the door. I feel bad but he hasn’t messaged me to apologise and hasn’t came in to say sorry. Who’s in the wrong here?

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you literally need to be taken care of right now he’s being an asshole, he should literally be doing everything you need. i’m so so sorry you’re going through this❤️😞 really hope you’re okay

@Ellie thankyou I’m just in tears whilst hes probably mad at me 😞

is there anyone else that can take care of you right now? support is what he should be giving i’m in shock 😖

I’m going to play super honest with you, only because I had 2 early losses and then had to bury my son Michael so I know this pain mama (in which I’m so so sorry you are enduring this pain right now because heartache feels almost worse than physical pain sometimes so your 2x the hurting right now) sometimes is woman think/assume men “should just know what to do “ and that’s sadly not case with soooo many men…. So I found after 16 years with my husband telling him what’s going on and what is best / next step or what I need from him at that moment has turned our marriage to a whole new chapter that i can appreciate now. He’s like “you don’t have to be nasty tell me I’ll do it” and your like “you should just know” so it’s a tough call not gonna lie - he may not apologize because he felt like playing with the baby was doing team work as you were wiping up the mud, even though you don’t feel that way. As corny as it sounds - talk , tell him how your feeling …. Let’s those tears out tell

The pain that your enduring and how you really are calling on him, so then once he knows what you expect , than if he doesn’t step up you have valid feelings to be upset. (Ps - try not to push , using any kind of hands even a soft shove is never okay. If he did that to you it would be unacceptable - so it’s also unacceptable when woman don’t go me - ) coming from a place of love , cause I know the pain you are feeling right now :(