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Sick of it

The dating scene!!! My god. Is every man a fricken reprobate??? I've been single for about 3.5 years. The last time I had any sexual encounters - I was 7.months pregnant with the baby daddy, who shortly after said I should sign a piece of paper to say he can be as involved as he likes, but not pay a penny. Guess who did not do that! So me and my son have been just us two since day dot and I wouldn't change it. But I did venture onto facebook dating a week ago. I find it hard to talk to multiple people at once without becoming overwhelmed or feeling guilty I suppose. So one person who has three children, all a bit older, and he is 15 years my senior. I thought yknow what. Give it a bash. Maybe people my age aren't stable enough anyway .. talk for a few days and get a few "I miss you in the two hours you're busy" chats. I'm like. Okay benefit of the doubt, maybe been a while for the guy. But also. Calm down we've been talking for two days here. Anyway. Tonight he said he was meeting friends for a pint after work. To text him when I've opened my wine.... Like sure but I'm having wine and relaxing not getting hammered? Anyway. I was waiting to see how that played out. " I'm thinking about you. I've got the horn" I said " risky business since you dont know me" " I know enough" I said " I'm a dude" No reply I've blocked and deleted on the Facebook dating thing and I'm just demoralised to be honest. Why can't guys be normal? I've not had a dick in 2 years mate I'm not missing it I'm not asking for it?!!! Ugh

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I’m a dude 😂 I’ve always wanted to pull the man card a few times to get rid of wierdos but never been brave enough Men are disgusting

@Danielle honestly, I'm the furthest thing from a prude, but just can't be bothered with there not even being any real effort made other than trying to get your dong out and tell me about it 🙄 only started chatting a week ago, he was pushing for a date and I was like " I've got a lot of uni work, and my son to organise someone to watch for a couple of hours. Let's aim for maybe couple of weeks time" yknow not too long a wait but also gives me a chance to get ahead and organised and we can learn more about each other chatting first.. Then he has a drink and immediately talks about his "raging hard on". Just done with even trying to appease these people.

The men are horrible, just broke up with a guy that thought he could hide his marriage and still thinks we should date. Then the others just need a night out tell you they will call you had an amazing night poof gone.

@Kirsten I don't understand how they can be so carefree while ruining so many things all at once. I'd be anxiety ridden if I thought I was upsetting someone, offending someone, breaking someone's heart, lying, anything negative ! But these guys just seem to naturally do all of it and not bat an eyelid . Well done for breaking it off! I bet a weight has been lifted

@Holly you are funny. They’re awful! I do not miss dating at all. It’s this generation though no one even gets to know each other first. What used to annoy me was they’d talk to me like that so I was like “oh ok you obviously look at my face and think she looks easy” like how dare they! Cretins, with their receding hair lines too vile

Yes I get this. I’ve been single for 2 years. Just me and my son, dad not allowed contact (court ordered) and I have been on one date which ended badly and another which did end in sex. We spoke after and said we are happy to keep it causal yet exclusive and then he blocked me the next day. All because I asked if he got home ok. Baring in mind we spoke 24/7 for about 2 months prior. Just can’t win💔 I just feel lonely 24/7