Having another baby a good idea

Im 31 and just had my first baby. He is almost 1yr. My husband and i had said we maybe want 3 kids or maybe just 2. My pregnant was okay till the end it was high risk and my son was a preemie. I dont want kids after 35 why i dont know. I was told that having a child after 35 would put me at a higher risk. Dont know what to do I feel sad inside and feel like im on a time clock. Im a over thinker and i have very bad PPD right now. Need advice. Please

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You don't have to stick to a predetermined plan. But don't be to eager to be worried about having kids after 35. Some practices are required to call it high risk due to industry standards and insurance reasons. I def recommend researching about your concerns. Maybe also finding an experienced doula to help address some concerns if doctors aren't able to answer everything or don't have time. Pregnancy is magical but do what you and your partner decide on and you don't need to second guess yourself!

I’m gonna be 32 and I don’t want kids after 35 but I think you shouldnt put stress on it and instead put your energy into your mental health and physical health. Life is gonna happen so just take it day by day focus on yourself and don’t do anything you’re not ready to do. I think if you don’t take care of yourself your next pregnancy is gonna be that much harder and even a harder pp. I think when your ready for it you’ll know. I’d honestly discuss this with your doctor it could ease your mind do some blood work see how your health is to better make goals and a plan that has the best outcome for you and your family.

I’d recommend seeing a therapist, and I’ve also really loved the postpartum support group called ‘soul side.’ It’s online once a week. It’s probably important to get back to a space of good mental health before thinking about whether you want another kid. You still have a fair amount of time before 35 to rest, breathe, recover and then think.