Reassurance

18 month gap here! The first month was Hard due to my first being a stage 10 clinger, exclusively breastfeeding #2, and having had a c-section. However it got a lot better really quickly and overall I’ve found it sooo much better/easier this time around. My toddler adjusted and of course there’s the odd behavior that comes out, but most of the time he’s so sweet with her. Tips would be to get a double buggy (side by side not tandem, I recommend the baby city jogger), don’t be holding baby for the first introduction and have a gift from baby to toddler, and try not to feel guilty the first weeks for focusing mainly on baby because you will need to

It’s really tough. I used all my visitors to hold baby so I could cuddle with my toddler. It was a good 6 weeks before things felt a bit more easier. My partner had to go in at night with my toddler as he started waking in the night with separation anxiety, this didn’t last but when I went in he stayed awake so that didn’t help. Get yourself a good sling. It’s great to have baby asleep then you can still play with your toddler. I had my baby bjorn bouncer in the bathroom so I could bath my toddler still. You’ll find they adapt quickly but to start with you will feel guilty and split in half which is totally normal. I have a mountain buggy duet with carrycot. Second having a side by side as the icandy double was a load of messing stacking the seats. Good luck it’s really exciting and crazy the first couple of months

Hi, also due May!! 9th to be exact! I’m aiming to do everything possible to involve her in everything! Have you kept telling your first you have a baby in your tummy, and how you’re all having a new baby? I’ve bought her a present from the baby to give her when they visit in the hospital (got a planned section & got to stay in at-least 48 hours). I’m planning for her to be either trying to help all time or sulking 🫣 or both! So just gonna make sure she gets as much attention as possible x