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Same thoughts here!
When I had my daughter I remember it being so hard postpartum depression and anxiety really got me. Add family stepping over boundaries and next thing I know I’m saying “I never want another baby”. By the time my daughter was one I had changed my mind and talked to my husband about it and we had differing feelings. It wasn’t until her 2nd birthday that I realized it wasn’t that I wanted another baby it’s that 1. I missed my daughter being a cute little baby and 2. Now that I was starting to feel normal again I felt robbed of my early days of becoming a new mom. I’m not saying everyday was hard but it was really rough when people especially family call you names just because you asked that they don’t kiss your baby or no I don’t want you to hold her I just need help sweeping. On top of that we didn’t have much of a village so when family would come over if affected me so much because it threw off everything I worked for.
For me, I always wanted two kids. We love traveling and having two kids instead of more will be more affordable to us (we have family abroad too). We also think of college funds and how pricey that’d be. We definitely want to contribute to their education (it’s made a huge difference in our lives to have our parents’ support). We are also ready to move on from the baby face and continue to explore more activities that we can do with slightly older kids. I do see babies and think “aaawee” but I have to pinch myself that there is more than that baby phase to continue to explore. Ultimately it’s your decision. Good luck!