Am I wrong for feeling this way? Long story/rant

Okay so my BD and I are trying to figure out life together. It’s a been long rocky road for us. I thought when we found out we were pregnant he’d grow up and stop being selfish. I’ve had an eating disorder for the past 4 years (it’s still off and on) so it’s very DIFFICULT for me to have a comfort food/snack. Part of my eating disorder most food looks and sounds disgusting I usually force feed myself so I can get some nutrients. (I’m in therapy for it and for a bunch of other reasons). With that being said picking out groceries at the supermarket is a living hell and I can feel myself mentally shutting down due to feeling so overwhelmed with choices. Now my BD and I have been together for almost 2 years. He knows my eating disorder, we’ve lived together for almost a whole year so I feel like he should know what I like to have around the house for dinner and like snacks that I could possibly wanna eat since he brags about him paying attention to me when I don’t even notice. But the past few times I have sent him to the store so I can stay home and not feel overwhelmed and overstimulated with picking out groceries and having our infant with us too. He has not even gotten any groceries that I like or would care or would have interest in eating… I even sent him a few ideas for at least snacks for the house that I’d most likely eat if I’m able to force myself to eat. And still nothing…. Idk what to do… when I talk about getting groceries delivered he gets upset and tells me not to and he’ll go get the things from the store even though he already went this week. So I suggested to him to stay home with our baby and I’ll go to store and get food I’ll eat and you can pay me back if you want not required or send me with your card. Immediately shot down, and I’m sitting here thinking…. Why not? I’d rather go to a store and not feel overwhelmed and overstimulated because when we all go together it ends up in disaster I end up leaving the store with our baby and wait in the car for him to finish up shopping and gets nothing on the list… idk am I wrong feeling invalidated to the point where it’s building up MORE resentment towards him? Or that he’s selfish and I should just get groceries delivered regardless what he says?
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Get them delivered if grocery shopping becomes that big of a hassle absolutely pay someone else to do it. Then nobody is fighting, everyone is fed, everyone is happy.. it’s worth your peace. he sounds very selfish. I’m sorry for that.

Volia is amazing for groceries and always many deals

I’m sorry about this situation. He seems to not put your needs and wants as a priority, he probably might be frustrated by the situation and takes it out on you by doing stupid things like that (not getting you snacks you’d like). I think curbside pickup would be helpful, if it’s causing you that much anxiety and distress find alternative ways to get your food without spending on something like DoorDash or instacart. Target does drive up, sprouts, I’m sure there are other stores that offer similar pickup or drive up order services. Be gentle on yourself and him, I’m sure it’s not easy for either one of you

Thank you all for the support and advice 🫶🏻💕 I went ahead and got a few food/snack and drink options delivered to our apartment this last weekend and just now did another round for today. It wasn’t much but now I feel comfortable to feel that I have at least a few items/options to eat on. We ended up have a long talk about it. He admitted he didn’t realize he should stick to the list/suggestions I send and not try to branch out or go off the list to try and surprise me. It’s been an adjustment for both of us trying to figure out each other and navigate co-parenting for the time being.

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