Husbands family forcing me to wear a head scalf

I honestly feel like I can’t win, I wear the head scarf and they still have issues I stop wearing it and again more issues, they monitor my social media and anything I post they have something to say. I’m always covered never have any skin out just don’t wear a head scarf ( my clothes could be looser I’ll admit) I just don’t know what to do anymore his family have pushed me to even dislike the religion I have no interest for it anymore! I did start wearing the head scarf to please them I was wearing for about a year but then I decided to stop as it wasn’t for me or Allah it was for them to keep them and there reputation happy. My husband has told me if I don’t want to be a Muslim anymore he will leave me as his parents wouldn’t allow him to be with a non Muslim woman, I’m in such a sticky situation I don’t know what to do advice please. My husband lives his life to impress his perents so if they aren’t happy his not happy but I know he personally doesn’t mind what I wear and doesn’t mind if I wear a head scarf or not. 😢

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Eww no sister that’s not Islam! You wear hijab for Allah not for people and when you’re ready. Don’t give in! Set boundaries honestly this is disgusting behaviour from them

You shouldn't be forced for such things. Please don't allow people to drive you away from Islam. You should focus especially in this month with your connection with Allah and how merciful he is and how much he loves you, then one day you will be able to put the scarf on for yourself and love for your creator. They are humans and they aren't perfect and the way they speak to you isn't OK. I'm not sure what advice to give as I know people have different experiences when it comes to in laws especially with culture

@Nimra honestly anything I do or post on social media causes issues and in there culture it’s your parents say jump and you say how high and I think they find it hard to understand I won’t be doing that. we have had many of “family meetings” do discuss my “issues” even have had to get iman involved when I first decided to take my scarf off! And they said the same I shouldn’t be doing it for anyone else. But as it’s Ramadan they have said I’m not aloud to be posting without a scalf. But if I wear it now it means nothing to me it will be fake for show

@Khadiijah totally agree I’m not sure if it’s also because his married out of his own culture I feel like they have an issue with me as it is. Also in regards to social media that’s how I make my money and my husband can’t provide for me atm so unless they are going to pay my bills then I will have to continue 🥲

There’s no winning when it comes to cultural differences overshadowing religious ones within a family dynamic… Unless by some miracle (and Allah SWT The Almighty is not short of miracles), allows your husband & in laws to be educated on how to conduct themselves, treat other human beings as well as not force their views on you then it’s a difficult situation. The Hijab is a sacred bond of modesty we have that shields us from evil, it’s also important to note that as adult women we have to know why we’re wearing it rather than be imposed to wear it. If you’re feeling like your wearing hijab is being forced on you, it raises the question as to what else will these people force you to do later down the line? Personally I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to my faith. Anything or anyone who comes between my deen & principles are not allowed in my life. You have to think carefully how you see yourself being in a successful and happy marriage in the future 🤲🏼

The fact that your husband is a parent pleaser is also a major red flag 🚩

Update he has now left and said he we will only be together if I now wear it if not we can’t be together anymore