I feel like a terrible mom…

Just here to say I’m going through the exact same thing!! You are not alone and reading this post made me feel a little bit better about what’s going on. I guess it’s just a part of the “threenager” year…. I don’t have any special advice besides being the water (calm) to their fire (tantrums). We work a lot on deep breathing and blowing out candles and that typically helps….But it does take about 20-30 minutes of sitting with her. You got this!!! And it’s ok to feel overwhelmed, we’re only human 🫶🏻

Girl my fiancé and I just had this conversation today. My 3 year old has been out of control screaming hitting not wanting to sleep he talks to us like he’s one of the adults and makes the rules you are not alone trust and believe not alone. I’m following for advice as well

First off you’re not alone! I have a three and a five year-old and I’m not gonna lie by three year old would make me cry on the daily! I did just recently switch from majority of foods with dye to as dye free as possible. It has truly made a HUGE difference in his major. He has his days as we all do but I’m not as completely overwhelmed every single day by the full on tantrums he was having. You got this! Take a breath! Being a mom is HARD!

This is completely normal behavior for her age (unfortunately! 😅)It sounds like she's having some big emotions and isn't expressing it in healthy ways though. I wonder if there has been some trouble still adjusting to the new sibling?

1. Get a gel timeout toy that moves & hopefully won't break that she can watch 2. Get an expandable ball that you can mimic breathing with 3. Practice "nice hands" 4. I bought a book called "Hands are not for hitting" and mimic some of the pages with her 5. Try to spend time with both of the kids individually? Saying this is your special time with Mommy or Daddy? 6. I did chomp on my toddler's arm a couple of times and pulled her hair when she pulled mine 🤷🏼‍♀️ honestly it only took a couple times... 7. I pretended to throw away her toys after she threw them and said if she kept throwing them then they would go in the garbage... seemed to work for us 🤷🏼‍♀️ 8. Does she have a nickname you always call her and then something you call her when she's in trouble? It helped us kinda get the point across that we were serious 9. Mommy doesn't hit you, so you don't hit Mommy (kick, scream, etc) 10. Talk about how those things makes you or others feel and try to get her to sympathize

11. We say our sorry because we did something wrong and we won't do it again, go over what they did wrong and then reward them after with love and affection 12. A little harsh, but... I am trying to teach her that we cry when we are hurt, not when we are frustrated; we ask for help and we use our manners and we say it nicely, not in a whiny/ aggravated tone. 13. Probably just go with empathy if you can 🤷🏼‍♀️ to deal with her little sibling

***if I'm doing something wrong, please let me know kindly*** I'm making up this parenting handbook as a single mom now 😅 but I'm right there with you with the threenager... her birthday was 2 weeks ago 😍

@Katy what day was her birthday?

@Julia yes. She definitely has not been adjusting. I try to give her one on one time but some days that’s difficult

@Katy these are good tips. Thank you

@Katy great tips Katy

@Kathryn the 27th

@Katy, my daughter's birthday is February 27th also! 🥰

@Kathryn she was originally due on 2/21

@Katy mine was originally due on the 26th

@Kathryn we were joking that if she was born on 2/22/22, we would've named her Tuesday 😅

We are going through the same thing too 😅 and I have a 9 month old ! I try to get him out of the mood by setting up baby with a snack in the high chair and grabbing a toy we haven’t played with in a while and doing 5-10 min of 1-1 time with him. I don’t force him to share too much because I think he still needs time to adjust to his baby sister.

@Katy I actually laughed out loud because my son was born 2/22/22 and that would’ve been a hilarious name 😂