First time mom in my mid 40s- nervous and stressed about giving birth!!
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I’ve know too many women have multiple both necessary and unnecessary interventions, plan for all sorts of births that have not gone to plan, plus all the other possibly physical things that can happen during the course of a vaginal birth. Just not for me. Pros and cons with birth and psychology plays a large part especially when it comes to the healing. So, after this epic message, it’s all doable, knowledge is power for advocating for yourself whatever you decide! Good luck on the final ( pregnancy) leg of your journey!
Firstly, congratulations. I became a mom at the age of 45. I know it can be very stressful with all sorts of fears and thoughts. I, too, had a lot of anxiety around vaginal birth but had heard stories of successful vaginal birth with the least intervention, so that was my initial plan. Life had different plans, and I had an anterior placenta and had no choice but Csection. It was a very smooth procedure and quick recovery. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Congratulations ❤️ you are so close to holding your baby. I became a mom one week shy of my 41st birthday. After miscarriages and IVF, I wanted and needed as much control as I possibly could. From the beginning I discussed with my obgyn the possibility of an elective c-section. My obgyn, who is also a urologist, supported me and told me that for herself, she also chose elective c-sections. I ended up needing one because my daughter was breech. I had the most amazing birth. It was calm and painless. I got to enjoy the last moments before parenthood with my husband, listening to our favorite songs. Recovery was smooth and mostly painless, I was up and walking within a few hours, going up and downstairs when I got home, and walking around the block by day 5. So many people tried to convince me that vaginal birth was "better" for me and baby. Baby girl is great, 7 months of breastfeeding and hitting all her milestones. With that said, this was my experience. You have to do what is best for you. Best of luck ✨️
Thank you all for sharing your thought and experience. I appreciate it.
Firstly, congratulations, so nearly there! I think, anecdotally, regardless of age, what you are experiencing is normal. It all feels a bit surreal until the due date looms. I’ve known a lot of women give birth vaginally in their 40s, so if you want to do it it’s entirely possible. There are some brilliant hypnobirthing courses out there that I know have helped friends hugely. The other thing that has helped in some cases is getting a doula? My own journey to parenthood was very different, mentioning this as an opener as it was also a reason for my decision to have two elective c-sections with my first at 40 and my second at 43. I had no inbuilt desire of labouring as part my journey. It was maternal choice both times and amazing experiences. In a world where I felt very out of control it gave it back to me. Calm, organised with nothing left to chance. Recovery was great both times, up straight away, breastfed immediately etc.