Domestic Abuse
Hey, soon to be mum stressing out here.
I am currently 7 months pregnant, due in May. The father of the baby was emotionally abusive, coercive/controlling etc - we weren't in a serious relationship, just a casual thing.
I disclosed to midwife about the abuse etc although physically I am fine and have a great support network. I haven't had any contact at all with the guy since October, since I cut things off, he also wants no involvement with baby etc. I also have another child fathered by him, from a few years ago (one night stand) who he signed away his rights for so my then partner could adopt so again he has no involvement with that child either, has never even met him or attempted to.
Today I had a call from SS regarding all of what I disclosed to midwife, now they want to speak to my sons nursery and my eldests school (he has a different father and hasn't even met the youngests father as I never had him at my house etc because of the boys as it was just casual)
Is this just to check on their well being etc?
I really don't want this to drag out as I've dealt with it, reached out to DV helplines etc and have an amazing support group of friends etc, if I felt like I was at risk or the children etc I would be taking it further. But as I said it's been like 6/7 months since I've had any contact with this guy.. and he has made zero attempts to contact me.
This is just causing unneeded agg/stress - which is why I was hesitant in telling the midwives in the first place. I know they are just doing their jobs, but still, currently, there are no posed risks to me or the children.
I've also just had a call from a support group, who do assessments for risks and support in correct way. She said right now I sound like I'm doing well and as no contact for a while she is happy to close the case, and obviously, the support will be there in the future if I need. So she has sent case closure to midwife and myself. Will this be handy to tell the social worker too?
Thanks
Sorry for all the waffle too. I'm just super stressed with the social work side of this all!!
I wouldn’t worry about this. SS obviously have to follow up on any safeguarding disclosures and they’ll soon see that there are no concerns with your children and close the enquiry. I’d be very surprised if they took it any further and even if they did it would only be to offer you support ❤️