Have you ever reconsidered having more children when the first time around wasn’t what you thought it would be?
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Yes. My pregnancy was the worst experience of my life. I knew then I would never carry or birth another child. And that was before all the postpartum experiences which would make me come to the same conclusion anyway.
I wanted 5. My first was born at 28 weeks and it was definitely a shock to the system. I didn’t think I’d have more kids or atleast not as soon as I did. We weren’t really preventing so when we found out I was pregnant again I went through a lot of emotions, sad for my first, scared for myself health wise, scared for the new baby. But aborting was a short lived convo, she came into the world at 40 weeks healthy and happy so I’m really glad it happened kinda naturally cause I didn’t have a chance to let my ppd take over. We are considering a third before he gets snipped. But I do think that if my son had serious health implications from being born that early I probably would’ve been on the iud or something to absolutely prevent the second.
You might feel differently down the road. 3 months pp is really early and you still have ways to go lol. Maybe when they are older you’ll be more ready. Maybe not. Live in the moment 💛
The first 4 weeks were horrible for me, I didn’t expect to feel such intense sad emotions. I felt like I was grieving. With the emotions PLUS they found a blood clot in my lungs 5 days after giving birth and I was separated from my baby for a week while I was admitted to the hospital, I really do NOT want to go through postpartum again. My emotions are much better now but I’d rather go through labor 12 times then feel the way I did postpartum. But I’m still up in the air, I’ll probably wait a few years before deciding.
Yes I felt that way for around a year after my first. I used to get so upset about it as I had always intended to have multiple children and after my first I didn’t think I would be able to put myself through it all again. Once she turned one it all shifted for me, I started to really enjoy motherhood a lot more and felt I could do it again so we went for it when she was around 16 months old. My second pregnancy and post partum experience has been completely different, really healing and for the most part really enjoyable ( a word I never thought I would associate with pregnancy & post partum) - so much so that I now want a third! Please don’t feel disheartened at this stage. You’re doing amazing and you’ve got plenty of time to decide what is right for you and your family and whatever you decide will be the right outcome for you all! Sending a big hug Xx
@Molly thank you so much 🥹❤️
I wanted 2 children, but struggle with a lot during my pregnancy is relationship issues, prenatal & postpartum depression, lack of support etc. Now my little one is 2½ and the thought of another child scares me to the moon and back 😭
Yes , I had horrid depression and anxiety plus really lost myself . I had support but personally felt alone still . I had PTSD of being pregnant would be terrified to even look in baby section or talk about a baby . Currently tho my oldest is 4 years old soon to be 5 and I’m 5 weeks along. I’m over the moon and happy 😊 I’m very happy me an my partner waited even when pressured by family / friends. I got over a lot of fears and found myself again.
I waited 13 years between my children. I swore I would never have another. One day something inside me just snapped, and I wanted another.
I was sooooo bad in my first pregnancy - So much anger and rage it was the worst. I didn’t even think about a second until much later. My son is now 2 and currently 30 weeks pregnant diagnosed HG. I’ll be honest second pregnancy wayyyyy worse with sickness and rage and complications. I’m So scared and lost so much weight but that’s just my experience. I know deep Down it’s all worth it but my advice is if you do make sure you have an amazing support system behind you that can help and therapy when it gets too overwhelming or isolating
Yes but had a second anyway and the experience has been night & day luckily! My first has just always been really difficult - colic, reflux, soooo sensitive crying literally all the time. Second is the complete opposite, little angel.
Yes, I kind of just wanted to focus on one child, kind of on the fence about having a second. And my little one's newborn stage for sure made me not want another. But she hates cuddles, hates being touched, has not stopped moving a second in her whole waking life and all of that stuff... makes me want another because I never got to experience peacefully laying down and cuddling my baby or anything like that and I want that. My partner feels the same way about it, especially since she cuddles him much less than me, I get a quick 3 seconds like once a month and he gets nothing
I wanted 3 or 4, after my first I didn’t even consider having a second until after my first was 2 yrs old. Now that I have my second I feel content with just 2. However I go back and forth about what it would be like to have 3, my worry is I don’t want to stretch myself too thin and want to take in account the fact that as they get older I want to make sure I can afford to nurture all their hobbies and interests.