Mother's identity crisis
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Find joy wherever you can. There's nothing wrong with just focusing on your family and there's also nothing wrong with wanting more for yourself. There's also nothing wrong with just being a Mom. I realized I was being hard on myself... Always worrying about what people think of me just being a mom, but I'm so blessed to be able to be a Mother and to have a family to take care of and be proud of.
I think this feeling happens to every new mother, because your life has to change so much. For me, I knew I wanted to keep working part time. Because the full time mother life just isn't for me. Even moving to part time work, it's an entirely new routine that you must adapt to. Have to find mom friends and hopefully make play dates with the kids. I learned that I needed to schedule weekly or at least monthly dates with my husband. Or you lose the connection you had previously. Another tip is try to carve out time once a week where you are not in charge of the kids. Like my husband and I trade a few hours. I get about 5 hours each Sunday morning where I'm not on kid duty and he also gets time each week.
Hi☺️ I completely understand. I think this is something most moms go through. We give so much and pour so much into our families that it's so easy to forget to do the same for ourselves. I really don't even know what I did exactly to get myself out of the slump. I know one thing I did was always going on a walk or just getting outside EVERY DAY. Fresh air really does help renew your mood/mind. Then find something small to look forward to each day. Something outside of being a wife and mother. Whether that's watching an episode or two of a show. Maybe it's trying a new snack or recipe. From time to time I'll read one of my books that have been collecting dust and waiting to be opened lol. You're not lost... You're just a new you. You need to get to know the "Yui" that you are now. What does she like or dislike? What does she need right now to get herself through this part of life? The biggest thing I learned to do after becoming a mother was Loving myself where I was at.