Please help 😭

Same with mine! It’s normal I put give her the Apple. I give my daughter whatever she wants but in reality she will still tantrum out of no where and it’s tough because I’m with my 7 month in my arms.

@Irene it’s so frustrating because she’s asking for food and I feel bad because I don’t want to tell her no to food. Especially because it’s an apple but she refused to eat anything else. But I don’t want her to starve either. It’s just so difficult

Ours is doing the same thing at 17 months about oranges. She’s obsessed. Usually she gets them when she initially asks depending on what she’s already got on her plate, but when we get to a tantrum place I don’t give them to her. She doesn’t need to know that tantrums are effective at getting what she wants.

Don’t give in. If you give in she’s just gonna keep doing it. Just let her throw her fit. It’ll get better with time

I would stay curious as to what happens leading up to the tantrum. Obviously behavior is a form if communication and sends out a message to the world about our balance of met/unmet needs. Likely her tantrum is not actually about the “wrong” fruit. Maybe she was overtired at lunchtime, or didn’t feel included in making her meal/spending time with you, is going through a new transition at home, or is uncomfortable teething, so on… i would just stay curious on what happens leading up to tantrums to find out why they’re popping off this week. I also would 💯 question any advice to disconnect with your child ESPECIALLY in moments of big emotion when they need you to help regulate their emotions. Staying present and calm with them shows them that you aren’t afraid of their big feelings, love them unconditionally, and can help teach them to ride the waves of feelings https://www.instagram.com/p/C7FQz2oyC_F/?igsh=MWthejU4YWRoNG52dg==

I highly recommend the below. https://raisedgood.com/toddlers-meltdowns-brain-development-ditch-traditional-discipline/

It’s a hard spot because there’s the principle to it as well. Do you give in and give her the apple? Or do you stand your ground? It’s up to you and the battles you choose, but remember she’s watching and learning and might assume that next time, if she throws a fit this big, she’ll get what she wants. It’s a hard spot to be in. Hugs!

Why couldn't he have an apple instead of the grapes ? Babies this age already have food preferences and it seems to me it's not worth the fight. That's an apple... Maintain firm NO when it's needed and for a real reason and not because "you are the adult and you said so" help the kid understand that no, is no and must be respected. But even the child knows it's unfair he can't have the apple. Just give the apple ahahahahah Not because we are adults means we have to enter into a power fight over something insignificant

@Aurélie that’s what I was struggling with. Because I don’t want her to think throwing a fit is an appropriate way to get what she wants. I held her for a while and asked her to say please then I got it for her.

Yes it's hard to find a good balance. To me the relationship with the kids is also important. So if I realized the apple is important for my kid than I ll give the apple. But I will never allow him to not grab my hand to cross the street, or jumping into the poll on his own, or any unsafe thing. Actually listening with non important things like the apple thing and consider his own decisions for these kind of things helps me to get my strict boundaries respected. Hope it helps mama.