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Does it ever get better like honesty.. honest answers only

Anyone with other kids can shed me some light ? I’m ftm Baby is 9 months now and honestly I have felt so low and depressed the whole 9 months everyone keeps saying she’ll get better ( with sleep and the crying ) and she hasn’t it’s got worse and it’s getting more harder to cope with as she has so much more energy now she’s non stop from the second she’s awake Also how is it fair the men can just chose to be involved or not? I have her dad (my partner) but he’s literally chose to work away 6 days a week just to stay away, I don’t even blame him I wish I could swap with him so badly But if a women done that they’d be wrong and neglecting there kids I just feel so fed up, miserable like my life is finished I’ll never sleep again I’ll never feel human again or anything I look at people with 3/4/5 kids and just think wtf is wrong with you I feel so jealous that others have help I just feel really depressed ..

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I don’t have advice but I know how you feel!! If you wanna reach out, please message me! Xx

Hi! Just so you know you're not alone! I have 2 children and can say that for both children I don't/haven't enjoyed the baby stage. I started enjoying it around 10mo with my first and much prefer it now he's 2. I can feel it starting to get easier with my second (10 months this week). I find it easier being at work and my husband feels the same. Some of us are just not baby people but it does not make us any less of a good mum. I have friends who really really don't like the toddler stage but I love it and I don't think less of them as mums! Having/wanting a break, especially from a needy baby, makes you normal!

Hello you really are not alone and also feel free to reach out if you want to meet up or chat. It’s SO hard and it’s normal to love every second. You feel like you should be like Mary poplins and happy all the time and you feel terrible saying your not happy. You need to ask your partner to give you a break. It’s not all on you. You need to say when he’s home you need a morning or afternoon off. No discussion.

It definitely gets better! My LO is 9 months too and he's started crawling and pulling to stand recently and it's made him SO much happier! He cried loads before because he'd be stuck on his belly or bored of being in the same place but he has freedom now and he loves it. Could be the same for your LO! Also his wake windows are lengthening too so he cries less because he's tired.

My advice is to try and break it up into stages… don’t think about the next 18 years but think about how sleep is better for most by 14 months, how communication gets much easier by 18 months and also by then and even earlier they only need 1 nap… how even if you’re not doing daycare they’ll start preschool before you know it and they’ll be little people with their own personality and quirks…. Lots of stuff like that and more to remind yourself that kids are constantly changing and what you’re experiencing now won’t last much longer. Hang in there…