Hygiene

I recommend the audio book HOW NOT TO MURDER YOUR ADHD CHILD. The writer is brillaint and she talks about hygiene too and how to handle it.she has a great way of thinking and is a psychiatrist in juvenile prison in the UK working with mainly adhd juveniles. Very intersting take and practical solutions she covers.

Can he tell you why? Is there something that's bothering him about the shower that makes him dislike it? OR maybe he doesn't like the way his underwear feels or if it's a streak problem, it could be a toilet paper sensory problem. Im not sure what you mean by dirty. You could mean worn/sweaty or soiled with bodily fluids.

In my book above, she listed hygiene as one of thr lesser known traits of adhd. 6. Cleanliness Issues: Many ADHD kids and adults go through phases of resisting hygiene routines like bathing or brushing teeth. This is often because such activities feel boring or time-consuming. She goes on to explain why and how to deal with it. Its basically just that it's nlboring and they don't see the point. It takes time away from.doing something better or more fun. Rewards rewards rewards. She hammers on with rewards. If he gets a reward for bathing, he would start again. But the reward has to be something worth his while, within your boundaries, that you can keep up for a while. She also mentions about changing to new rewards every 3 months because they don't see it as a reward anymore after a while. Hope this helps. But yes, get the book! Well worth it!

@Ghitta I will have a look. Thank you.

@Keylii we've had a chat but its oh so difficult to get anything out of her. Honestly, I don't know if it's all due to her having speech delay when she was little that now she doesn't know how to communicate like doesn't know how to explain something (speach is good its not having the right words). With my suggestions of words she admitted it makes her feel embarrassed, etc... but no reason on why they get dirty (from poop). We went through time where I got her to just jump in the shower if she was having trouble wiping properly and then just went back to the old way but this time hiding it... its easy to catch when there's a possibility of them being dirty as she refuses to go for a shower. Its a cycle we been on for a few years now.

How are her writing skills? You may be able to increase communication by writing. You could also try giving options for wiping, wet/dry. I have a kiddo who struggles, too. He's almost 9, and it's been improving the more he helps clean up the mess. We did the shower thing, too, at one point, and it didn't last long either. He was also hiding it, and so that's why we showed him how to clean it. No judgment, not telling him how gross it was, because he was learning that as we went.