I spoke to a lawyer who told me my ex can get what he wants...I'm fucked and worried

The lawyer told me I'm just out of luck because he has no criminal record and on paper doesn't look that bad. She said maybe we could fight for him to have anger management classes or substance abuse course before visiting started but basically that he is entitled to his rights (50/50 custody and time) no matter how he treats me or what I can say against him. I do have a lot against him.. apparently not enough. I at least wanted decision making rights and they are saying I won't even get that unless he was crazy on paper... I'm screwed. Now I'm hella sad because what does this mean for my baby..and I've been having him supervised visits (even tho he makes shit as hard as he can for me every time) so she said the court might see that we can work together which also works against me Thoughts? Like should I just give up? Not even hire the lawyer? I'm broke asf anyways raising 2 kids by myself and 2 ppl have told me so far I don't stand a chance against him 😩🤷‍♀️

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Do not give up. Find a different lawyer but do not give up. Your baby will see that you fought for him/her. Your baby will grow up and realize you did what you could. That alone is reason to fight.

We had a lawyer and my son’s dad had just gotten out of jail and was convicted of felony strangulation of me and got an assault charge for choking my daughter, he still got visitation. He has no custody but he does have visitation.

I'm so sorry that you and more so your baby have to go through this love. I have been in a similar position and did not want to go to court for that simple reason of having to do 50/50. The system really does suck sometimes. My only hope have been taking it in prayer. And since then the Lord gave me Exodus 14:14 I the Lord will fight for you, you need only to hold your peace. And rightfully as that scripture says.. With my ex as physically, emotional all types of abusive as he is.... There have been a sense of peace since then. He's he's apologized and speaking in my favor. I have my healthy boundaries set and he sees our baby who is EBF on my terms which he has to respect if I can't make it and that he has to consider she cannot come alone. I don't know your situation because we are dealing with two different individuals so I guess what I'm trying to encourage you... (Don't know if you are Christian) but to give it to God. Jesus said cast all your cares on Him because He cares for

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You! I am a living testimony of many battles He won me every time regardless of how challenging or messy.. Whether it was done miraculously or logically, He has never failed me yet, since I truly decided to trust in Him and to follow! God bless you j hopenyou find your peace! 🙏🏾💖✨

My wife is an attorney and in these cases, she is able to argue for limited visitation. 50/50 is not to be expected. Unfortunately, with attorneys you get what you pay for. If you can find someone else, it’ll make a big difference.