I’m SICK of having to be the only person who has to “AND” 😐

I love my husband dearly & I appreciate the fact that he works to provide for our family. However, lately everything is starting to irritate me because I also work (not full time but I do pay bills as well) AND cook/plan all the meals & grocery shop for said meals AND clean up AND do all the laundry & dishes AND do the majority of the child rearing (we have one child under 1 who I combo feed and another in elementary school) AND maintain everyone’s schedules & appointments AND basically be at everyone’s beck and call AND AND AND AND it never endssss. I just want to hop in my car & drive off into the sunset sometimes 😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑 Ok. Rant over.

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Right there with you. Love him. But I do it ALL!!! The mental load of it is endless

Same here sister hang in there

Same... he was on the phone with someone today and he was telling them how I do it ALL. Figure something would snap in his brain and say hey.. she does a lot.. maybe I should 'help' too vs it just being a basic hubby/daddy duty...

I think all of us feel this at some level. I've come to accept that's part of married life with kids. It's a choice I made. Some days it sucks. Some days it hurts. But every day I would make the same choice again

I felt very overwhelmed a couple months after becoming a mother. I told my husband how I felt and how he could help. I literally just wanted him to come home from work until I got the hang of juggling everything (not that he went out after work, just dragged his feet) or if he goes to the shop for 3 things, it shouldn’t take him nearly 2 hours! He didn’t do anything so I stopped asking. Then I blew up at him. I ended up telling him that I could do it all on my own. It would be hard. But I would make sure I did it out of spite, if nothing else. I wanted him around. And I wanted him to WANT to be around. If he didn’t want that, tell me. He pulled his socks riiiiiiight up and helps a lot more now.

No advice but I felt that….

I think alot of women feel like that I don't always think men understand how hard it is to maintain a house and look after a child/children at the same time but a little consideration or help wouldnt go a miss even the thought to offer some help would be great. I know they go out to work and they work long hours but still.