MIL wants people to think my daughter is hers/claiming she’s my daughters mom

Yesterday I begrudgingly went to the mall with my MIL at my husbands request, I don’t like to see them when he is not around but he is away for work a lot so they don’t see her much, and MIL makes a big fuss about how my daughter has more photos/spends more time with my side of the family than she does. Anyways while at the mall she would push the stroller and say “yeah I bet some people think IM your mommy” and then when a cashier asked how old she was I said 7months. She tells me congratulations and mil asks “you don’t think I’m the mom?” M’AM YOURE OBVIOUSLY NOT! It gave me the ick but I didn’t even say anything because it’s awkward enough already. Husband wants me to allow one visit for them while he’s away because he doesn’t see the things they do to be that bad, and individually sure it’s not terrible as some other MILs are. But it all adds up to really make me hate my in laws (FIL is also bad but this isn’t about him)

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Ugh I can’t imagine how frustrated you must feel. She probably thinks it’s cute and all but she needs to know it’s not. And as for your husband not seeing the things they do to be as bad as they really are, don’t worry most men don’t. Personally I would like my daughter to know her grandparents so I’ll still let them see her but I’ll definitely cut down the visits to the minimum.

That's definitely ick. My MIL is difficult. I'm distancing from her and made it very clear to my husband there is no other option. It's sad but I feel my MIL is a danger to my family and has serious mental health issues. It seems that generation are pretty messed up and I've got no idea why as my grandparents never behaved this way.

Absolutely icky. That seems like she has some underlying issues. I’m sorry your husband doesn’t seem to understand. Maybe keep talking about it with him. He needs to at least understand your feelings about the situation.

The way saying no to your husband would solve this problem lol

@Denise I’ve said no the past 3 times she’s asked to see the baby while my husband is away, it’s just making the relationship more uncomfortable. I don’t let her control the plans as she’s retired but she asked to see us for two hours in a public space and bought my daughter some new toys. I can’t just allow them not to see her for half the year while my husband works, even though I’d like to

Ugh I’m so sorry. I don’t really have any advice. My spouse was on the phone with my MIL and she was talking to baby saying “do you need me to come rescue you” ick. Hang in there.