Is it normal to have mix feelings for a second pregnancy ?
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I think no matter when it happened you would prob have some fears, maybe different ones but it’s still a lot to take in once it happens, even though you wanted it. Don’t worry about work, being pregnant and maternity leave actually works in your favour. They can’t get rid of you and have to find a job role to best suit the role you currently do, even if they say the role has gone. These changes came into play April 4th 2024. See how you get on, if nothing changes then speak to therapist
I felt exactly the same. We tired and fell pregnant straight away. I was excited when I found out and the next day it turned to worry we had done it too soon and wouldnt cope. Sadly I lost the baby at 9 weeks just as I had started to get excited again and now I feel so guilty about my feelings. I think it’s normal but try to see the positives and enjoy your pregnancy and make sure little bean feels your love x
Thanks ladies for your comments. I probably need to take the time to acknowledge it all and be cautious as still quite early. @Sophie sorry to hear you lost the baby. Trying for babies is such a rollercoaster of emotion and you never know how it's going to go. I find it so hard and even if I am quite open with my partner he can never feel what I feel (physically and emotionally)
I’m in the same boat 4 Weeks pregnant . All the nausea and vomiting already girl 😭😭😭 but yet I already had complications and I’m worried sick about this baby
It is the most normal thing in the damn world and don't let anybody convince you of any different! I got pregnant by accident when my first was 8/9 months. It took me ages to accept the reality, then it was twins and tbh I am still emotionally working through it all despite that they're here and I love them all so much. Take some time to process and you'll feel so much better as the pregnancy progresses. Also remember you oldest will not be the same in 6-8 months time, the amount if growing and change is huge so worrying about their now behaviour is wasted energy xxx
I’ve just given birth to baby number 2 (2 under 2 for me), I can honestly say I thought it would be the hardest thing to manage but realistically it’s been plain sailing with some juggling acts so far. My toddler has adapted so well I’ve been getting her involved with everything I do with baby to the point where she demands to feed him or change his nappy🤣 toddlers are much more resilient than you think. I’ve also placed a cot in room next to my living room with a baby monitor set up so my toddler still gets 1:1 time and doesn’t just feel left out, it’s worked wonders, no jealousy or anything as of yet. And totally relate to being scared of not being able to love your 2nd, not being able to love 2nd as much as your first but trust me when you have that baby in your arms, the love floods in. I also work in HR, there is new employment law changes that come into effect tomorrow to protect parents and expectant mothers. Use this link: https://www.gov.uk/working-when-pregnant-your-rights
I think I spent the first 20 weeks dreading baby number two and then got excited and then spent the final 4 works absolutely terrified. Both times full of guilt and worry. And the first week she was here I did cry a lot out of guilt for my toddler. She’s 4 months now and I couldn’t imagine not having her. I don’t think he could image not having her. He loves her. He constantly kisses her. He rubs her tummy and strokes her head when she cries. Asks to hold her all the time. Tries to pick her up out of her chair bless him (and thank god for straps😂) he shares his toys with her, he tries to give her his dummy which is a huge deal for him. Henry does not give them up easily but for his sister he will and she doesn’t even take one 🤣 He’s got a doll as well which he picks up and pops over his shoulder and walks around patting the bum and sh sh shhhhing 😂 You’re feelings are so normal but there’s so much joy in having more than one 🥰
This is a natural feeling i had this going from 2 to 3 as my boy was only 3 months old when i caught but you will be suprised how much the baby will fit in. There is plenty of love to go around. Im now on number 4 and now think what will be will be.