In laws won't stop about how much our kid looks like his dad.

My boy is about to be 3 years old and since the day he was born his paternal grandparents have been on about how much he looks like his dad and acts like his dad and I'm getting annoyed. We recently learned that he has NF1 like me which is starting to cause light brown spots to appear on his skin like I have this week we were at his grandparents again and his grandma was talking about how he's EXACTLY like his father and I made a joke about how the only thing he got from me was his spots then his grandma started to explain that he got them from his father because they all get spots where there skin is lighter than normal and I just am starting to hit the end of my rope they are starting to make me feel like he has nothing from me but I know he does i see it all the time I just can't help but feel so upset like is my son that I birth not aloud to have any of my traits in there eyes? Picture of one of my spots.

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Could be that they see far more of YOU in your son so they’re overcompensating because they too want to see traits of their family passed down to a new generation. 🤷🏻‍♀️

What’s it to be mad about?

No, he looks a lot like his dad has his hair, his eyes, his mouth shape, but he has my nose, my chin. He's definitely got a mix of our personalities. I just feel like every time I point out something he gets from me it's always made into how it comes from his father I've been told that he looks nothing like me and that the only reason they know he's mine is cause I was pregnant with him. I feel like I don't matter

My mil has said from the day all 4 of my boys were born how much they look like Dad and never look like me... still to this day and they are 7, 5, 3 and lil one is almost 3 months

I don’t think it’s denying your traits, it’s just grandparents seeing their baby again in their grandchild. My in-laws are the same and I think it’s sweet that they can connect and enjoy seeing their son again in their grandchild. I’d love to see my daughters traits in my grandchildren and highlighting them isn’t denying the other parents involvement.

@Sarah in another comment they literally told her that the boy “looks nothing like her and the only reason they know it’s her is cause she was pregnant with him” which I think is 10000% denying her traits and involvement 😔 and to also turn around anything you say comes from you as “no, that’s from his dad not you” is clear as day…..I would be so sad to hear this type of stuff all the time….i could imagine! How heartbreaking.