Help advice needed

So I’ve recently found out that my ex / daughter (5) dad has a non molestation order against him ( restraining order ) basically He isn’t aloud to contact his ex & kids (9)&(12) That’s all I know I’ve asked him about this and he said she moved house and never told him which is true he found out the address and went round the house to see the kids but she turned him away then phoned police and said he was harassing her she got the order via the family court He said his awaiting her to submit her evidence / reasoning why she needs the order against him I’ve done a Claire law and it confirms he does have the order but they said they ain’t aloud to tell me why So I only have his word I’m not sure what to do I’ve stopped contact for now until I knew what he had supposedly done but Clare law didn’t tell me anything I don’t already know in regards to this order against him So I’m back to square one I’ve asked him for the paperwork explaining why he has this and he said he would get it for me Monday Not Monday just gone Monday before Still waiting…….

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Are YOU able to reach out to his ex? If you know who she is, that’s what I what do. The risk of the lifelong damages that he could potentially cause your daughter is just too high to risk anything. I would think that (more likely than not) she would be willing to support another mama in keeping her daughter and herself safe. That’s what I would do anyway. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m sorry if that person is innocent but I could never talk to someone with that record/allegations attached to their name. I’m super protective of my baby and that thought would never leave my mind.

Sometimes women weaponize the police and use it as a way to control people or torture their ex because of whatever reason they try to justify. I am not saying that's what she did but if it's non molestation then he's safe to be around children. And if he's never shown you that he's violent, controlling or anything that is considered a red flag outside of this I would get the paper work myself it's all public record if it happened in America. And remember that it's two sides to the story I hope he reveals what happened but it may be a hurtful thing for him to talk about especially if he is innocent. My aunt by marriage lied on my uncle and said he touched his twins and it literally tore his heart completely out he got remarried but never wanted to have children again. Years later it came out he didn't do it but the damage was already done😢it broke my grandmother's heart (his mother) and the family hasn't been the same since.

I’m not saying this to be any kind of way, but when I ignored signs like that, it almost took my life. Please be careful

@Alissa I know who his ex is and 2bh she was nightmare when we was together she would always phone and try and cause trouble and refuse to let the kids come to my home where he was living with me at the time

@Destiny🤍🧝🏽‍♀️ well this has happened after I’ve had a baby with him and split so can’t be helped really

@Claudette ❤️ I’m in the UK I’ve already been to the police they won’t reveal why he has the order just that he has it

You obviously can’t take a baby back but I definitely still wouldn’t be with him and let him handle his situations by himself. You do you tho.