Should I leave him?
So, I've been married since August 2020 and that's when the beatings started. I fell in love with him some time before then after we met online.
When he's sweet and kind, he's the most thoughtful guy ever! But he's recently been so distant - he's even sleeping in the spare bed. Then on Thursday he slapped me very hard across the face a few times .. my face and forehead were very sore and red. I can't remember how many times I've endured this from him now. But because of that, he took my son to his mum's on mother's day and I ended up spending it alone (it was also a festive celebration of Eid for me).
I only just told my sister .. all these years after it all started and she wants me to leave him. But my whole life is here with him.. we live together and my son goes to nursery here. I'm so stuck, I don't know what to do?! Any advice.. I've just submitted a report to 101.
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When violence is involved, it’s time to leave. Speak to Women’s Aid to figure out a safe plan to leave. https://www.womensaid.org.uk/about-us/contact/?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAqv7BQPncKZ90VSQJToSj-YZH4vZ9&gclid=CjwKCAjw47i_BhBTEiwAaJfPpqOaMgb6vvroIf9FMypS259ZBuzw9Qu7O6dvms-umJX3YvZ4ttU2lRoCcUwQAvD_BwE
It'll be better for you and your child if you leave. You don't want your son growing up thinking that behavior is okay or tolerated.
Leave, your son will think this is normal and do you want your son growing up witnessing all of this? not only that but this isnt healthy for you either, its domestic abuse and domestic abuse can escalate at any time
Yes, I promise you life will be better for you and your son. It may be hard to start with but it will all settle and you will have a new normal. There are charities for domestic abuse that can help you. Here is the national line 0808 2000 247, they are open 10am to 10pm.