@Madeline i have tried those! They do help it not to be so jarring, but i still get overwhelmed. I think it also just makes me incredibly sad to hear them cry.
I feel this way and I have 4 and pregnant with #5 I tend to get them calmed 1st then walk away and deal with my overstimulation in private away from them(do as best I can I do still explode some times bc it happens to quickly) i need to try nose canceling headphones
Hey, have you tried noise cancelling ear buds? I find that super helpful when the crying gets to me. Or there are even special ear plugs that can filter out various decimals.