I don’t post my daughter online and I ask others not to. What should i do for her 1st bday?

I know everyone will be taking photos and I wanna do my best to not have her online. Recently i’ve seen some people have posted her without my knowledge and i’ve told everyone not to post her since she was born :/ For her birthday I really want to limit it as much as possible. I genuinely don’t want my kids blown up on social media. I’m 22 and deleted almost all platforms. I want to respect my older family but I’m feeling icky about being judged by them and her being posted. Any Ideas or advice, can anyone relate :(?

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I don’t post my children either and my family respect that I just tell them under no circumstances are my children to be posted ANYWHERE you don’t know who’s looking at their profile and they seem to respect that, if they don’t respect that then they don’t see the children we also have a group chat that we post pictures in

Make a shared album where everyone there can be included and see each others photos but people not there ain’t gotta see nothin

@Tanisha Exacltyyy, maybe i just have social anxiety but idk how to tell a group of relatives her don’t post her lol. i was thinking of putting up signs?

I would just make it clear that taking photos is acceptable but don’t post them anywhere or make a chat so they can al enjoy the photos there and that’s all just because it’s little ones birthday doesn’t mean the rule of photos being posted has changed they should respect that

I dont post my kids either.. i made a now phone rule at my little girls frist brithday .. and for are second im going to be making it so that no one is allowed to take pic of him at all ... and i just a family wall app .. so i can still post pic of my kids just in a private app for family and friends...

@Tanisha this! Same here but instead of a group chat with pictures, I use the Family Album app and it’s been great!

@Kaylee i use that too ..

I told all my friends and family not to and they respect those boundaries so maybe have that conversation with them - it’s your child so don’t feel afraid to speak up for what you think is right

Every couple of months I post the same thing on Facebook- “Please don’t post photos or information about my children.” And then I list all of the reasons why. Folks need to be reminded of how serious we are about it. I sometimes report the post or directly reach out the person to tell them to delete the post whenever someone shares my kids’ full name, birthday, or eligible photo with their faces.

I was pregnant with my first when I did a ton of research. Now I just repost this when a birthday is approaching, holiday season, etc. It also helps us avoid the conversation beforehand knowing that are closest family members (who actually have access to my children) are constantly scrolling Facebook so I know they see it. It’s a common problem with my mother in law and I have actually noticed people comment on her posts things like “I thought we weren’t allowed to post pictures of them” literally calling her out on my behalf, thanks to my public posts like this. Make it known and find ways to bring up your concerns in actual conversations too.

I just saw that you said you’ve deleted most of your social media. I would too… but I honestly only keep my Facebook and Instagram accounts to make sure people don’t post my kids. If I didn’t keep my social media, I know my in-laws would take advantage of that assuming I wouldn’t know what’s going on online. Consider having social media just for that reason. Otherwise, I don’t even scroll Facebook or Instagram because they’re both full of BS anyway.

@Tay I have facebook! that’s where i feel like i’ve seen the most photos being posted without me knowing im probably gonna post that on facebook before events. thank you