How to know someone will be there for my kid?

My little boy is almost 2 and his father hasn’t been involved since he was 3 months old. I’ve not started seeing this new guy and he’s amazing! We get on so well, but how do I know if he’ll be good around my kid? He’s not got kids of his own. I asked him questions like does it bother him etc.. he said no. And if we ever had one would he treat them differently etc and he also said no. But he paused for a bit before he said this and I said to him I don’t expect him to be his “dad” but he’ll be a stepdad and role model to him. But he then went on to say about girls (single mums) he knows who then get annoyed about their partner not doing certain things like picking kids up from school etc as it’s not their responsibility is kinda what I gathered (that’s just an example). He hasn’t met my child I don’t believe in doing that straight away, but he’s so nice like will that bond form? I need advice single mamas!! How did you know he was the one ?? As I’m now a happy meal I come with a child 🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂 Sorry for the long post (just stressing!)

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I.rhink you're coming on a bit strong with the questions tbh brcause this is so new and fresh, I get wanting to get it all out of the way, but he knows you're a single mother and what that entails, as for the whole school run business, I'm yeah it's a parents job but it doesn't come strictly under parents, I've had partners who've taken my kids to school and collected them for me, its called lessening the load for when you're so busy! Anyone can pick a child up from school with permission, and about this whole will you treat them the same, everyone says no, but they will, there's no love like your own child, it maybe so small you won't notice it, snd saying words like step dad probably threw him off too! Stop with the 21 questions and just have fun! Besides school runs and getting kids, it is way further down the line. Everything can go differently then what he says and from what you think, as for being good 3niugh to be around your child, I would start looking st how he treats you and others around you 1/2

And how he treats his family or people in general then you'll know if he's a good human to have around, I have major trust issues and trust no one around my toddler, but I'm a paranoid mother who worries about everything plus my 2.5 yesr old can't communicate yet either. You'll get a feeling eventually. If there's something you find you don't like months down the line, even if it's small but a big enough problem to you, then I'd say it's a no-go. Having g faith in humans is hard, especially when children are involved

@Suzanne yeah exactly I’m just so worried as I’ve not brought nobody around him. I feel me asking them questions was needed and he didn’t take them a bad way so I’m glad I asked them! But I am trying to have fun with it, I just don’t want to waste my time anymore. But he treats me well and is a family man. He’s also older than me so I’m hoping he’s mature. But I know that’s not always the case! X

Just take your time. If he doesn't change, then you may have a good one xx

Don’t date bc you want him to be a stepdad. He needs to want to be a step dad

@Old Lady💃 well obviously