Would you be upset if your boyfriend proposed without a ring?

I would be but we also had multiple conversations about how I wanted to be proposed to so he did what he knew I wanted. I wanted to be asked on the water and have someone there to take a picture so that’s what he did. You do deserve to have something special. Can you ask him to ask again once he has a ring?

I’m in two minds. It’s nice to know they have thought about it and gone to the effort or arrange a special way to do it and picked the ring etc. but also, to know in that moment in time he may have been so overwhelmed with love and emotion that he knew right there and then he wanted to marry you and wanted to express that to you is also really sweet. But also, does he know how you feel? Have you been engaged for 5 years and he still hasn’t got you a ring? If not, If it was a spur of the moment thing, what stopped him from going to find a ring afterward and surprising you with it on another day. Almost like two proposals. Just cause you’re already engaged, doesn’t mean he can’t still do a proposal once he has a ring and surprise you with it. But if he doesn’t know you feel this way it may not even have crossed his mind. I hope this helped a little 🤞🏼❤️ talking is sooo important for a relationship and also our own mental wellbeing

We got engaged without a ring, because it was spur of the moment. We had known each other for like 6 months and been dating for like three 😅 So we picked out a ring together

@Charlie it’s hard because he said he asked my mom and grandpa like a year ago but in a whole year never tried to plan anything. We have 2 really young kids, but still , I feel like if he really cared he would use some energy to plan something. Idk I already feel like I don’t deserve any of these things so maybe I’m right, if the one person who says they love me the most can’t even put in effort to do something special then I must just not be special

@Dana 🦅♥️🤍💙 does it seem weird to ask that? I think women are told how these things could go then when it doesn’t happen it’s soul crushing

Imagining something for years and then not getting it can definitely be soul crushing, especially things like this where it feels like it’s only going to happen once. I don’t think it’s weird. I think in a relationship it’s important to communicate what you want. Be reasonable and allow the person to have some of their wants as well but be vocal about what you would like. You could say, “hey I love that you asked me without a ring because you felt so much love in the moment. But would you be willing to ask again with the ring? I would love it to be at the park when I’m dressed up cute and have my nails done” (whatever you actually want). And talk about a time frame so you know when it could happen and be ready but it’s still a bit of a surprise.

My man did. We just picked our rings out on Amazon together. I think it should be a mutual decision on rings since it’s something that symbolizes you both in the relationship. My man could’ve proposed with a paper ring and I would’ve said yes in a heart beat.

I mean I had the ring but it wasn’t a proposal that I would’ve wanted. For one the ring was meant to be just a genuine present at Christmas but it had to be ordered in. I even picked it up for him and then he did what he did with it on the day. It was half arsed and there were no traditional on one knee type of thing. Just not really much thought into at all. I do get it was like 8 months into being together so it was too soon in my eyes and was a massive shock when he asked. But I’m totally with you after years together no matter how many, i get it would crush your feelings. Men don’t really think too much into the lovey dovey side of it. They know what they want but maybe don’t know how to show that so maybe that’s why he hasn’t got a ring yet or he may not know what ring to get and don’t want to get the wrong one🤷🏼‍♀️

My husband proposed without a ring & I let him know I wasn't happy for a long time afterward 😄

@Rachel I wish I could be as transparent as you about how I feel ☠️ like do I get upset now? I was already upset for so long that he didn’t even ask. Now am I gonna upset that he didn’t do it right

If you feel like you can tell him, then tell him

The fact he asked your family and then didn’t plan it properly would 100% upset me yes. Are you still engaged or married now? If your still engaged I would honestly try have a word with him even if it has been 5 years as it’s clearly upsetting you still. He needs to know. And then it’s down to him as to whether he makes the effort after that or doesn’t. But don’t you ever think you’re not worth the effort. That’s silly talk! Everyone deserves the effort. Even if it was to be the woman proposing to the man. If you love someone enough to want to marry then, in my opinion, they should be worth the effort of making it special if they know that’s what the other one wants. Some people don’t care about the logistics of it all and see it as more of a practical thing. He may be one of them and thinks you are too. Having your own voice will tell him that’s not you and that he needs to step things up. X