All you mums in the mixed babies group!!!

I don’t think I’ve seen any other type of post on there fr. Well apart from the hair version. That’s it. But even regardless of that, nobody has the answer to these questions because all babies genetics are unique. So 🤷🏾‍♀️

I don't have mixed children, but my best friend was mixed, and her grandchild is mixed. We were discussing racism and she told me that there is racism in the black community about how light or dark someone is. She experienced it a lot. I also remember being in my 20s at work and a young man making a similar comment about it. Maybe depending the area that could be why??

I feel like it's easier for them to speculate on their children's looks instead of doing the work of decolonization. Which I get. It's hard. I'm biracial (but white presenting) and even I have done some work when it comes to understanding my own white privilege in a white supremacist society. I imagine it's even harder for white women who likely think their mixed child and minority partners are proof they don't have anything to work on 🥴

@DC💙🩷💜 it’s called colorism. And it’s definitely not just in the black community. I’ve seen it heavily in the Asian community and Latino community. It all stems from white supremacy.

@Fel thank you for clarity she didn't use that term.i was also not aware of that

@Raqi this right here!!!! And it’s really dangerous- because there is work to be done. Your dark skinned mixed child is not a badge of honour! Thank you for this comment especially as you are mixed yourself so you are not coming from a biased point a view. You get it.

I had to block the word mixed on here because I kept getting suggested posts from that group on my feed. You would think cats and dogs were being discussed and not human children. It didn't surprise me, it did disappoint me.

This right here ! It’s so cringey 🥴

I joined that group when I first downloaded the app, but it's just so weird to me. All about hair, skin tone, and who they look the most like. I don't care about any of that. I'd rather discuss my daughter's interests than what she looks like and the difficulties she may face in the world that I'm unaware of so I can learn how to better prepare her. It wasn't at all what I was expecting it to be.

Someone told me my child will be so pretty cuz they’ll be mixed I first of all forgot… and two I cussed her out cuz don’t bring that colorist bullshit near me.

The mixed group reminds me of that chick Nika Diwa who thinks her kids three hairs are the hardest thing on the planet. In the year 2025 😭 come on.

I wanted to join those groups cuz I have a biracial child bt I complained abt how the group was so odd cuz I realized it was all they talk abt is hair textures & skin tones. 🙄😬🤡 So I started my own group with black moms with mixed babies. :) hopefully we will have some black mom members join were we build a community to talk abt other things besides what our baby looks like. @Fel sis I forgot to add u in group as admin 🤗 and ur right in ur response to @DC💙🩷💜 comment! It’s colorism, also want to add its featurism & texturism as well. I agree those groups are wierd asf

Only 20% saying yes is telling.

@Queen my SIL said something similar like oh your kids are only good looking because they are mixed. I had to walk away.

@Jasmin damn those poll results are not it 😫 like can we not make our babies feel weird? I can’t stand it when people mention my daughter’s skin tone or hair texture. Like she’s more than that….

@Kee I would swing.

@Kee oh hell naw! She would have gotten a four piece combo 😂😂

@Zainab🗝️ lol I think I’m gonna have to do the same and block or mute certain words. I also noticed there is also an obsession within the community of ppl who have features like green, blue, hazel eyes etc. & different hair colors. So many ppl with that genetic type wondering if what their kids eye color will be like etc. will they have blonde hair blue eyes etc. it’s very weird.

@Jasmin @Fel im sorry if I offended you ladies for not knowing the proper term. But thank you for informing me!

I actually had to have a conversation with my family about this. They always make comments about how blanqita my baby is and that she's so pretty and I let them know that moving forward they can give her compliments on her skills and strengths but not on her skin tone or eye color and that honestly i don't want them teaching her to relate beauty to ones physical appearance.

My partner is Nambian and my baby is light which i see nothing wrong with it im pale skinned and his family aren't shy off the skin comments when we show him off..I feel uncomfortable when they say it personally and it makes my skin crawl..my first encounter with showing him to his family is they don't comment on him being adorable it was 'why is he so white' i felt like im not going to show him off if your going to say that

@DC💙🩷💜 no offense taken!

Personally I wanted to join a group where I could potentially access advice and support from other mums in a cultural aspect for my son as his dad is not involved or his family. And advice from other mums, who are biracial themselves, on ways I can support my children through life experiences that I won’t have experienced myself with me being a white woman. I quickly learned that isn’t what that group was about. In fact I did make a post incognito once relating to what I have said above and I was basically laughed at so deleted the post.

@Zainab🗝️ 😂😂😂😂 hilarious