Do I need more kids??!!

Hi there, i need some advice from mums please!! I am separated with 3 girls, 8,5,5 years old. I am currently with my partner of 2 years who doesn’t have a biological child but will definitely want to have. I don’t want another child because I feel like am satisfied with my 3 daughters but I also love my partner but she wants to have at least one child, so am not sure if I should compromise or not, but I feel like she doesn’t understands my reasons, for me it will be my 4 child but for her it will be her first. She gets upset when I tell her that I won’t be that excited anymore because it’s not something that I want, so now i think am single because we want different things. Am I wrong for not wanting another child even tho I want to be with her? It feels wrong asking her to forget about it and just be together, which I know she won’t forget it. Please light some light in me mums. Thanks ☺️

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Please some advice

I don’t think either of you are wrong. It’s totally valid to not want more children, but it’s valid for her to want them too, especially considering she doesn’t have any of her own.

If you feel strongly like you don’t want anymore kids then don’t compromise. The last thing you or future child needs is regret or resentment for them being brought into the world. I adopted so I can’t say I get the need to have bio kids but I understand some people have it. If that’s a point of contention I would suggest having an open, honest, heart to heart. Both of your wants are valid. But if you want different things then it’s best you two found that out now rather than going through with pregnancy and either of you being angry or resentful

Thank you very much @Bekah i really appreciate the advice. It’s hard because we both love each other very much, she loves my kids and takes care of them too, we live together and it’s all too hard when it comes to that topic. Also let’s not forget that am co-parenting with my ex and she is very much in our lives.

Understandable! It’s a rough situation! Whatever you pick I wish y’all luck.

Thank you very much. @Bekah

@Levi you are right, I do under her reasons but I wish she didn’t want kids of her own and take mine as hers.

Don't have anymore kids because that's not what you want in your heart. Compromising would bread resentment from either party. I think you should consider parting ways so that you both have what you need. Don't stop that woman from having kids and don't have a kid you don't feel excited by.