Worried

His father tells me I should give him our child because he owns property. He's a manager he's married And I have no plan. It's really making me doubt myself. I didn't know I was supposed to have a step-by-step plan. I thought love was enough

What you’re feeling right now is so valid, and I promise you, you’re not alone. So many of us have those moments of fear and selfdoubt, especially when we’re doing this without the support we thought we’d have. You don’t need to have a five-step life plan to be a good mum. You are a good mum, just by showing up, loving him, and caring this deeply about his future. That kind of love is powerful it’s not nothing, it’s everything. You’re the one who’s there when he wakes up, when he cries, when he laughs. That bond is gold. And no, owning property or having a job title does not automatically make someone a better parent. It doesn’t mean they’ll love your child more. What your son needs most is safety, connection, warmth all the things I know you give him, even on your hardest days. The fact that you’re questioning yourself doesn’t make you weak,it makes you aware. You’re thinking deeply about his. I coach women so if you need to talk reach out 😊🫶🏽

@Lacey Sorry I should have added I do have a career. I work full time and my child goes to nursery 5 days a week. I live in London and rent is so high and the council list is impossible. I wish I saved before I had my child. I feel like I'm in a rut and I don't know how to get out of it. I split everything with my mum 50/50 but it's not my house. It's her council flat I think if I at least had somewhere to call mine I'd feel better but my confidence is definitely low from the constant belittling from his father And I look at my son and I know he deserves more. He deserves to have a mum who owns a house. He deserves to have a mum who has savings so that he can do whatever he wants in the future. I've set him up at Junior ISA but it's not good enough. I want to start bettering my life but I don't know how. I wish I could message you privately, but I'm so embarrassed by this. I don't want to share my identity

You can message me xx

Don't feel embarrassed, your honesty is incredibly brave, and I see so much strength in what you’re doing already. You’re working full time, raising a beautiful little boy, contributing to your household, and doing it all without the emotional support you should have had. That’s not failure, that’s resilience. I know it’s hard not to measure “enough” by things like savings, property, or what society says a mum should have. But your son doesn’t need perfection. He needs love, safety, and a mum who keeps showing up and he already has that in you. You’re not stuck forever. Even if you don’t see the full path right now, just wanting more for yourself and your son is the first step. Little changes, small goals, baby steps, they do add up. Please don’t let his father’s words define your worth. They say nothing about you and everything about him. If you ever do want to message privately, I’d be happy to talk. No judgment,just support. You’re doing better than you think 🫶🏽✨

I feel quite similar. Ive always wanted to be a mum but never found the right person to bring new life into the world with. Last year I made the impulsive decision to parent solo. I got pregnant first try. I have some money but I'm not made of money. I'm lucky to be soon receiving inheritance from my late grandparents but it won't last forever. Whilst I know I don't have the most money in the world and I'm still living with my mum (who I care for) I also know that my son will be so loved and wanted and that is such a big thing that a lot of children unfortunately don't have. Love trumps money in my eyes!

@Lucy just messaged X