Over it

Is anyone else just over the picky phase..? I’m so done with him not eating the food that’s made (that he asked for), refusing pretty much everything, and throwing fits at meals. I understand it’s normal, and everyone says “they won’t starve themselves” but there are days he will literally refuse everything, his stomach will be growling and he will be so cranky because he’s hungry and refuses to eat what’s been prepared. I’ve tried having him involved in cooking/cutting/preparing meals, choosing what he eats, not giving choices and just making food.. idk what to do anymore and I’m so over it. He’s picky to the point recently that if his favorite foods LOOK different (ie applesauce not in a pouch, or a different shape of pasta) he won’t touch it. 😑 I’ve talked to my pediatrician and they say it’s just a phase and keep doing what we’re doing.. but the frustration, anxiety over what he’s eating, and stress over wasting food (which gets expensive) is overwhelming.