How can I convince my boyfriend to have another baby?

My boyfriend never wanted kids. We got pregnant when I was told by my doctor that I'm infertile. I have always wanted to be a mom but I had 5 losses before our son was finally born. Now that I have a child and we're doing amazing with parenting. My boyfriend loves being a dad but said he doesn't want another. I grew up with siblings and so did he. I have friends who are only kids and have talked about how they hate it. My boyfriend was treated worse than his siblings and he's afraid we might accidentally favor 1 over the other and doesn't want our either to go through that. I also was least favored and I think if the 2 of us put in effort then we can ensure that we don't do that but I don't know how to convince him of that. That's the only reason he doesn't want another.

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Woah! Okay I kind of understand because I was not the favored child growing up and it really affected me and I always think about how to make sure my kids will never feel the way I did growing up. I have 1 child now, but think of this because I’d like more. I think it’s one of those things that you shouldn’t ‘convince’ someone to do. It has to be something that they are ready for otherwise they could grow resentment towards you later for pushing them into it. I realize that could be hard for you, but it’s much better having a baby when you both are wanting it, than not.

@Denise 100% agree. I guess I don't want to do much "convince" him as much as I just want to figure out how to make him understand that I think we can handle not choosing favorites...if that makes sense. I think I worded it weirdly. You're right completely about the not convincing him part.

You can’t. If he doesn’t want another baby and you feel SO strongly that you do then you’ll either have to adopt (with his consent) or end the relationship and find someone else. NOBODY should be “convinced” to have a baby.

I think you should just accept that you already basically had a compromise. He didn’t want kids and he had one with you if he doesn’t want more I think you should respect that. And honestly, even though you believe you won’t have favorites, some people subconsciously do so you never know until you’re in the situation so that’s not something you can promise him will never happen because you never know.

@Kyrie it's more so wanting to make him feel more comfortable with the idea. He only doesn't want it because he's worried about us having favorites.

@Bella okay but good parents don't have favorites. And I think both growing up feeling unwanted and clearly the least favorite that we'd be able to continuously avoid that happening.

Tell him that. I was just saying people do things subconsciously doesn’t mean ur not a good parent. if you have this discussion with him and he still says no, at some point, you have to respect his decision. You had a kid when he was clear he didn’t want one now you want a second one and he’s saying no when are you going to respect his boundaries?