Emotional Regulation/Mom guilt
So my daughter will be three soon, and the feeling have been big and lately getting BIGGER. I have found myself in so much GUILT the past couple weeks because the problem is not that she is having these big feelings it’s that I have lost it again and again. I am learning how to regulate (myself) at this late stage in life, reparenting my own inner child and as much as I feel I have learned, I still find myself losing my temper, yelling, saying things I regret. Each time I repair, I try and model some deep breaths after ward etc I still feel SO guilty tho, like I am messing up my child. Just posting in hopes to not feel so alone, I wanna do better, and each day I try again and feel like I fail again!? What gives?
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@Alexis aaaaaaah 🥹thank you. We got this ✨
I feel the same way with both my almost three year old and 6 year old but I just lose my mind trying to get them to stop and yeah it sucksm I am reparentig myself
Oh, Mama! You are not alone!! Something that helps me is repeating what he hears in his shows (PBS has great options) and the books we read. Go to the library and check out anything about love, emotions, kindness, etc. He might not be picking it up while I'm reading, but I am, and I'm repeating it constantly. We're doing the work for the next generation. It won't be perfect, but it'll be worth all of our hard days and mom guilt. 💕
Mama you are NOT alone at all. My daughter is almost 3 as well. Shes sassy, independent & very vibrant. With that comes lots of big feelings and lots of attitude. I have had moments too where I feel quite guilty after how I have handled things. Give yourself as much grace as you can. Trying to teach her to regulate her feelings while also learning to regulate your own IS HARD! It won’t happen over night but you’ll get there! We both will 🫶🏾🤞🏾