Venting / Positive advice needed

So my child’s father has been in jail since before I even knew I was pregnant for DV my son is now 14 months old and his dad is about to get out of jail. If I did not let his dad move into my house when he gets out he would be homeless so I have decided to give him one more chance. However everyone is mom shaming me about letting him be around us. I’m worried that they might be right but also I want more than anything to believe that he can act right so that my son and I don’t have to leave him alone for good.

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His homelessness is not your priority. You and your child's safety is your priority. Look into "sunk cost fallacy" and determine whether you want this man around out of fear or because you believe it's right. Act fast.

So i want to say my heart goes out to you. I could understand wanting it to work sooo bad , especially for your child. But from my experiences with situations like this , it is really important when people show you who they are believe them the 1st time. Your life isnt just on the line at this point so is your child’s. Your baby depends on you . So if you make this choice, which it is yours to make, make sure you them into account and how it could affect them if something were to go wrong. It sounds like your mind is already made up.Even though your mind is already made up, please dont walk into this situation blind with no plan if things were to go South. You need a safety plan that allows you to remove yourself and your child quickly if something were to go wrong. A safe list of family and friends you can call for help. Money in different places to access without his knowledge. Knowledge of how your local dv and shelter resources work. My prayers are with you and yourlittle one.

He can act right somewhere else. Your giving him everything he needs to survive. Best of luck to you 💕