I started with small sticks of cooked potato and offered it to my little one and he took a bite of it and then spat it out for the first few tries and then he decided to start trying to chew it. After a week or so of trying this twice a day at lunch and dinner he started trying to pick it up, the first times he did squish it but then tried to put it toward his mouth, now he manages to pick them up and bite them properly
Those babies you're seeing with spoons wouldn't be loading the spoons themselves at this age, the parents preload and hand over/put on their plate x We do blw and still mostly boiled/steamed veg. He was mostly playing for the first 3ish weeks but now started eating much more of it. His favourite are cucumber sticks, steamed broccoli florets and chicken served in finger-sized strips. If you are scared I would start with soft veg just without mashing it yourself x
I have given my baby cheese omelette, toast with butter, different fruits, baby biscuits, melty puffs.